Do you ever wonder "what if"?

It is a chronic nightmare/daydream since I have made some very bad choices in my life.

@anartist care to elaborate a little more? :)

I have “Hmm I wonder” all the time.

What if I had fought harder to live with my dad instead of my mom… what if I had given in to my friend’s sexual advances in high school… what if I had better parents that actually sent me to college… whatifwhatifwhatif…

And then I come back to reality and look at my loving husband and my fantastic son, and I only regret not having an awesome family to share with them.

@Inked_up_chic no, they are over and done with. The only choice is moving on.
This much I will say, several choices were about relationships. One was not.

If we spend too much time in the past or future, we are not paying attention to today.

I wonder how my life would have turned out if my current wife and I had been married to each other as a first marriage for each of us and we have been as suited to each other then as we were when we actually met. I’ll assume we would still have had the exact same children as we have now.

All the children would have had a better childhood and we would have had 25 more years together and I believe we would have still been together and happy, just in better financial shape than we are.

@Dr_Lawrence it’s nice to know there are other people that have these harmless thoughts as well yours is truly sweet in the aspect that it’s not about what life would be like if you two never met but what life would be like if you met sooner

@Seek_Kolinahr I completely get ya!! I’ve had a few of those same thoughts myself, only it was my mom not my dad, I guess what I’m getting at is does anyone else feel/get a sense of peacefulness when they have these random “hmm” thoughts and then analize what u currently have? And do u think that it’s odd that I do?

I think about if certain things hadn’t happened in my life after i was born I would have never moved to Texas, where I grew up….I would have probably stayed near where I am now- so I have come full circle (I now live 1 hour from where I was born, but have lived across the country in my younger years) However, you never know- if I’d grown up here (Louisiana), I might would have wanted to get out as soon as possible. My husband and I play the what if we’d gone to different schools possibility, we could have still met at football games….it always ends up with us together no matter how we flip it. (We were duplex neighbors when we met, I was in grad school he had just completed his bachelor’s) Sometimes it can be fun, but thinking about what could have been refletively is a lot different that sighing about it whistfully. not that I am implying that that is what you are doing

everyday.

What if my grandfather had died in infancy?

The outcomes of “what ifs” are impossible to predict. Other black swan events dominate life. Their very nature: high-impact, hard to predict, and rare, means you never see them coming.
For example: If you had gone with your bf from elementary school instead of you might have been in a car accident while getting ice cream.

You are loaded with suspicions. you say you are 100% content with your relationship and i say you are not. if you were, you would not be asking this question.

@john65pennington that’s the thing and I think u miss the point of this question of which I have asked, I am 100%, but I have such an over active imagination that these ideas, thoughts, daydreams just pop into my head from time to time and I feel the same about them as if I happen to drive past a shoe in the middle of the road and the thought ” I wonder how that shoe got there” and as quick as that thought came it’s gone, so this question wasn’t about hidden or subconscience agendas it was simply does anyone else have these “what ifs” with the same feeling as if they were about that shoe in the road

@john65pennington

Oh, I don’t think so. People ask “what if” all the time. Asking “what if I finally finish my novel and it is picked up by a publisher and makes the bestseller list”, doesn’t mean I regret being a stay-at-home mom now. Just as wondering how different our lives would be today if my friend Michelle and I had grown up with each other’s parents doesn’t mean I am discontent in my life.

@Inked_up_chic It feels good that you understood my feelings so well. Thank you.

My mother always said “If wishes were horses, beggars would ride”