This article is wriiten by my friend kathee. She shares with us her tips on how to win your in-laws.
1. Smile. Smile can ease tension and fends off the impression that you are intimidating. It can make your partner’s family feel that you are easy to get along with.
2. Never miss a family gathering. Be as visible as possible. This way, they will think that you value time with them.
3. Strike a good conversation that you know expertly about. Always know what you talk about. They say there are three topics that a person should avoid in a discussion: sex, politics and religion. All of us have our say on these things, and we don’t have similar views toward them. It’s best to be on the safe by talking about your partner’s childhood, their favorite meals, favorite movies, pastime activities, etc. Anything that interests ordinary beings.
4. Be confident. Never come off as unsure. Confidence gives the people around you the impression that you know yourself enough, and you’re a person of good standing.
5. Greet your in-laws on special occasions through text or phone calls. Whether it’s a mother’s day or birthday, greeting your in-laws makes them feel that you treat them special, like your own parents. It doesn’t have to be a lengthy phone conversation or a two-paged letter. A personalized text message is also better than forwarded ones. A one-liner greeting will do.
6. If you cannot attend an occasion, inform your in-laws beforehand why you can’t make it. Even if you’re one of those who don’t like your in-laws, just accord them with the decency of letting them know why you cannot attend the occasion, especially if they personally invited you.
7. Never dress too provocatively during family get-together. Most in-laws are undeniably old-fashioned and conservative. So better not show off too much skin. Dress and act appropriately.
8. Never fight or argue with your partner in front of your in-laws. Blood is thicker than water. Whether you’re the one who’s right, in-laws will always have their heart out to their kind. So avoid fighting with them around. Save it for later when you have him all by yourself.
9. Cook for them. Show off your kitchen skills, and let them taste some of your specialties. This will make them feel that their son/daughter is well taken cared of because you know your way around the kitchen.
10. Never recite a litany of your partner’s flaws. This is very important. No matter how tempting it is to spit it out in the open, it is best to avoid washing your dirty linens in public, especially in front of your partner’s parents or relatives. Like in item number 8, their sympathy will always be toward their kind because blood will always be thicker than water.