Have you ever been holding a grudge for a long time then you suddenly realize it's gone?

Very cool!

It’s a sign of your evolving consciousness!

No room to hold grudges…if someone treats you poorly more than once it is just time to let them go.

Good for you, feels great doesn’t it!

I always try to remember not to take things ‘personally’...meaning, that if someone is a jerk they are most likely a jerk to others too! lol

nope, still got mine! in safe keeping! loll Seriously, can count on one hand the grudges I bear. But, those are really good one. When I was in high school (was a freshman), the biggest guy on the football team, hit me from the blind side and sent me flying across the gym floor and my head hit the bleachers. Years later, walk into the cream cup to get a sandwich, there he was. I was bigger than him….walked up and kind of pushed him lightly and said, “hey Wright (his last name), want to push someone into the bleachers again!” He didn’t say anything..yeeeeeeeeeeeeehaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!

I don’t carry grudges. Sometimes I wish I could.

That’s great news.
The only person that’s harmed is the grudge holder so it’s good you’ve moved on from that.

I only have one grudge and it’s still too fresh to have faded yet.

not so much ”realizing it was gone” but that I couldnt remember what the grudge was about… the feelings would still be there but I wouldnt be able to recall why or how they got there to begin with… but once I realize that I cant remember why I was mad at them I let it go… no point in holding a grudge if you dont know why you had it in the first place.

I was angry with my mother for many years. As she really started aging I was able to get rid of the anger. I think this is common.

Never. I would love to know the feeling. I have chosen to not show bad behavior toward people for the sake of family harmony or social reasons. Pretending nothing is wrong often has more benefits than creating drama. Still, I harbor bad feelings. I want to add I never harbor a grudge over petty things. I save them for people who commit homicidal negligence and extreme willful acts of malice that are intended to ruin someone’s life, health, and well being.

NO! I never carry grudges. And if you don’t believe me, I’ll never forgive you!

Seriously… good for you. A grudges is like jealousy. Just eats you up.

Yes, and it feels much better to move past it. Someone I respect calls it, “Building a bridge and getting over it.”

Not a chance, this one is as raw as the day it was 15 years ago…jack-wad-bastard…standing on his balls while I pulled out all his teeth with pliers would not bring enough satisfaction to let this one go.

@Cruiser Oh my goodness; that doesn’t even sound like you. Someone must have seriously wronged you.

I wish I could do that; just get over it. I feel if the incident or the person connected with the grudge has an important place in your life then it sticks. However, once the importance subsides, other people start becoming more important and that’s when you realize in the larger scheme of things, holding grudges doesn’t help in anyway. By the way, I am just hypothesizing here, because I’ve never been able to feel so secure and content.