Can we still be friends?

You two can still be friends. I know many people who have feelings for each other and they are still great friends. Don’t let those kinds of feelings cause you to lose a friend. Just call her and see if you two can talk and be calm when you talk to her. Tell her that you don’t want deep feelings to cause a rift between you and you still want her to be your best friend. She’s your BEST friend. You don’t want to lose that.

I don’t think it’s going to feel uncomfortable forever. I think the awkwardness will wear off eventually.

I had an identical experience with a girl who was my “best friend that was not a guy”. We had a little too much to drink one night and wound up “sleeping together”. It was great, but the next day, while trying to beat down a couple of pretty bad hangovers, we agreed that it should not happen again. In my case, it was simplified by the fact that at the time we were each dating somebody else, and there was a bit of a guilt factor as well. Since then, she is happily married to great guy and has a very cool kid, and I am divorced with two kids and committed to another absolutely great woman. And we are fast friends to this day, our respective partners know about each of us, and everything is great! Based on that, I think it is easy to reassure you that you can still be great friends forever.

I think it may take some time for the awkwardness to fade. As to whether you two can remain friends that is up to the two of you. How important the friendship is to each of you and how you are feeling about each other.

The most important thing is to be honest about your feelings.

you guys can still be friends only if you want to, you already know she does :)

thnx (to all of you who read my question and answered. I found your answers really helpful, thnx:)

and now I have to add something: now that we talked again, she told me that she’ll always love me, and that we can still be friends if I want to. but I don’t know if I do. I need to spend some time alone and think, but if I tell her not to text me she’ll get angry with me.
I still can’t figure out if I’m telling the truth, or if I’m lying, by saying: ‘best friends forever’....

p.s. and it’s strange, ‘cause I’m acting like a boy I used to be friends with. the same happened and he was freaked out.

p.s.2 she and I used to be like sisters, more than best friends. and now I don’t know what to do because I only had that stupid idea

@mYcHeMiCaLrOmAnCe Sorry, I think I misunderstood your question.
I thought you were a guy.
Disregard my answer please.

@josie no, I’m a girl. but it was a good answer anyway

Give yourselves a few months of space to get over the shock of new discoveries. Making out with each other after such a friendship is taking a gamble that doesn’t work for most people so tell her you understand this, you aren’t sorry you tried but at the moment you don’t think it’s for you.

@Neizvestnaya now that’s what I’m gonna tell her

@mYcHeMiCaLrOmAnCe- good luck, friendship is precious.

@Neizvestnaya thnx…. I think I’m gonna need some luck here

@mYcHeMiCaLrOmAnCe- keep in mind if she’s cut out to be your friend then she’ll get past the awkwardness but if she’s mean to be an acquaintance then this is as good a time to learn that as any. Good luck.

@Neizvestnaya we just had a fight, some minutes ago. I guess she won’t ever talk to me now. she took it worse than I did, as it seems. I’ll maybe do what she asked me to: leave her alone

@mYcHeMiCaLrOmAnCe- leave her be to cool down for awhile and get over feeling rejected. In her eyes she probably feels she took a big chance declaring her feelings and then acting on them. You did too but the gamble didn’t work the way you hoped. Let her reclaim her dignity, send her texts saying, “good night”, “feel better” but narrow it down to that for a bit and let her set the pace to be comfortable again platonically.

I was in the same position as you for a while. Really like my best guy friend and told him about it however he didnt feel the same toward me. Like you, Him and I used to send ALOT of text messages, these days it’s rarely any. He considers me to only be a good friend and i’ve let it be that thats all we could ever be. Even at this point it can still be hard to talk to him, I never know what to say. I hope you can find a way to still stay close to her without resorting to the little amount of communication me and my friend had. I wish you all the best.

I think her feelings for you were no surprise to you. You had read them before and thought you might take advantage of the situation. When you found yourself in it you realized it was a mistake and stopped. I could be wrong, I often am. If I’m right however, you should fess up and try to salvage the friendship.

Honestly it really depends on you two. for some people they’ll feel really awkward and just don’t know how to act around the other so they’ll start to drift. But if you two really are good friends and you both talk it out you will probably be able to fall back into that comfortable spot you were in before and see what happened as something that made your friendship grow into a stronger one.