Do you want to be missed when you die?
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August 4th, 2010
I see this from two angles.
Angle 1: If I am missed, that means that I was a loving caring individual that people are sad to see go. That would mean that I lived my life exactly the way I wanted. That is a feeling that someone will have had to have earned. They deposit love into your heart, and it is missed when withdrawn to leave this earth. I want people to miss me for that reason.
Angle 2: I don’t want people to be sad because of my death. I want people to be able to laugh and just remember the fond times and anything I every taught them. I don’t want anyone to be sad for one second when I am gone—I wish the best to everyone. Always have.
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Who cares… I’m dead.
Missed only matters in the hear and now.
I want to be loved while I’m alive. That’s all. The rest will take care of itself without my help.
Nobody loves me…
SEE! That friggin dream is driving me crazy!!!
I am positive that I won’t care about that.I will be too busy haunting strangers that didn’t know or care about me at all.;)
I used to do military funerals for elderly people that used to be in the service. Most people cry because that’s just what people do when someone they love dies. Only a few laugh and celebrate their dead loved ones life. It’s a small group that are able to handle their emotions.
I won’t care whether I am missed after I die. Thus, I do not spend a lot of time thinking about it, but if I did, I would like to be missed. It would mean that I had made a place for myself and had value in the world.
@Blackberry We always laugh and tell stories at the funerals. The thing that always gets me is the body, who do people need to see the body?? It’s so weird.
Well, i also see it that way, if nobody misses me, it must mean that nobody loved me. So i do want to be missed, but that doesn’t mean that i wish for them to be miserable and cry their eyes out for months on end – missing someone can be done with fond memories with a little touch of sadness just because they’re not there anymore.
No, I don’t want to be missed. I don’t like the idea of causing people who loved me pain. I’d want them to celebrate my life at my funeral and then be able to move on from the loss.
I really don’t want to be missed as that is such a sad helpless thought to have thinking someone is that invested in me that they would carry that emotion forward in the land of the living. I want people who knew me be be glad I am finally out of their hair as that means to me we had a deep and involved relationship and they are stronger and more confident about their own lives to carry on where I left off.
@mowens That is the last time you will get to see them, even if they are dead, you just want to see their face that one last time. It’s another memory to hold on to.
I’ll settle for a monument.
I hope those I love have good memories of me.
Yes! I want a moment of silence every year on the anniversary of my demise at 11:46am. I want David Muir to announce that moment of silence. Because he’s hot.
OK, no, really, I don’t care. I just hope I leave behind something useful or beautiful for people.
@mowens, being hard-headed and unsentimental about it for a minute, I think people need to see the body to verify that the person is dead. There are a lot of reasons for this.
Births, marriages, and deaths are vitally important to the community at a primal level. They all require witnesses.
Missed? Yes. Deeply mourned to the point of depression? No.
I wouldn’t say I would want to be deeply missed, more like remembered in a good way.
@Jeruba I can see that… but why make it pretty? :) A dead body is a dead body…
Remembered? Perhaps. Mourned? Hell no. Last thing I want is someone wasting time they could be doing something worthwhile over me moping
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