Should Divorce be made easier or more difficult to obtain?

Easier. People can fall out of love and there’s no reason they shouldn’t be able to choose to end a marriage that isn’t working for them. Regardless of whether or not others will argue it can be an indication that someone isn’t willing to work on problems – that’s irrelevant. While in certain situations that may very well be the case, people should still have the right to end a marriage if they want to.

Divorce is different in different states – in NYC, the laws concerning divorce are archaic (but this will change soon) and you can’t get divorced due to irreconcilable differences – there has to be adultery, or abuse or abandonment – so we lie and circumvent the system..I just found it annoying when doing my divorce (which my darling ex husband felt he could care less about…meaning he didn’t care if he stayed married to me) and wished that it was easier because I was filling everything out myself. What I do think, in fact, is that getting married should be more difficult but not sure in what ways.

I think it should be made more difficult during the seperation process. If a spouse is having an affair they must cease communication with the other person for a year. No calls, no visits. No particular reason except that by the end of the year the other person may have moved on to greener pastures. If they are found to be guilty of getting together with this other person than they loose everything in the divorce settlement. See if the hussy or hustler will stick around when their married love interest is broke.

Easier. I don’t really see why it’s anybody else’s business why a couple wants a divorce. If they want one, they should be able to get one. Simple.

I think it should be easier.

Marriage is a contract. It should be as easily dissolvable as any other contract.

Easier though in cases of adultery I feel the person who cheats should lose their right to alimony and also pay the divorce legal costs.

If both people agree to the divorce, I think it should be made easier for them. I think people make it difficult for themselves because either one person doesn’t want the divorce or they want to take everything they can from the other person (alimony, pensions, the house, etc.).

The divorce itself should be simple in my opinion.

I would say easier. Divorce is not that difficult to obtain, I believe, yet it must be more difficult then it seems because too many find murder to be easier.

Easier, especially the crap about paying $250 for the papers…...what the hell…...it’s freaking paper, not a car repair or a netbook.

Easier… It’s easy to say I do . It should be just as easy to say I don’t .

More difficult, at least when underaged children are involved. I think that children should be made more important in the process, with an advocate primarily for the children always involved. There should be studies done to determine what is in their best interest, with the interests of either adult being placed secondary.

There should be guidelines which are enforced with all of the protection that the law allows to ensure that the children are provided for by both parents, financially and emotionally. This protection and overview should not end when the divorce is final, but should be available at a reasonable expense at any time until the children have reached the age of majority.

I would be very willing to have society provide this expense. In my opinion, so many others of our “entitlements” are far less important and less well deserved. Frequently a parent is unable to seek redress when the other parent has failed to provide or consider the needs of the children. I have seen this selfishness apply to parents of either gender, not just the fathers.

I have seen too many situations where the adults in these situations place their own interests before those of their innocent offspring. Selfishness is rampant among many couples when they are unhappy with their marital choices. Adults made the choices, and the children should be shielded as much as possible from the effects of these choices.

Easier.

Children are much more damaged by unhappy and unhealthy parents in constant battle tension. Staying together for the kids sake usually means the worst for the kids.

Where kids are involved then I agree with an advocate and a rule that all possible should be done so they can stay in their schools. I understand the adults going their own way but they really should put their kids as a top priority, I see a lot of people who don’t.