Why do moms want to wear our clothes?

It depends on how she looks.

Yikes! I think you ought to call What not to wear on TLC. Shoot if you get picked for a makeover your mom gets a new wardrobe.

How old is your mom? When you are young all adults seem old. I am in my mid 30’s and still dress “young”. I look fine. Your mom had the right to feel good about the way she looks.

@tinyfaery Pics or it never happened.

Uhh… you want a picture of me in jeans and converse? That’s just sad.

Well, when you put it like that…

@tinyfaery Well my mother is 39, and maybe she does have that right to feel good but what if she doesn’t actually look good (no offense mom but my clothes don’t suit you)...but more importantly i should be able to wear my clothes when i want to, i know its my mother but she could at least ask =P

@tifa Very valid point.

I think it’s super sexy, but I understand what you mean. I just have an attraction to older women.

You have no right to tell your mom what she can and cannot wear, but you can ask her not to take your clothes without asking. You can also move out and avoid the problem altogether.

@tinyfaery ok you need to calm down already because you don’t know my personal life, first of all i’d be out of here already but my father doesn’t want me to go just yet. Secondly i’m not telling her what she can and can’t wear but she should be more respectful towards other people’s belongings. Third what bob was getting at when he said pics or it didn’t happen he was questioning whether you actually looked good or not in those clothes or because it may have been self-delusion or age denial….

Wow. Defensive. That’s all you girl.

I would explain to my mom it’s not age appropriate if she dresses younger than I do. It really depends on the clothing I guess. I don’t see anything wrong with a woman of any age dressing nicely or wanting to feel young. There are just some clothes I wouldn’t want anyone to wear on a daily basis such as clothes people wear to go to a club.

@tinyfaery I think jeans and Converse shoes are fine. Depending on the jeans (if they are not really, really short shorts) or has holes all over the place, they actually look nice on a person of any age.

Generally, I don’t like sharing or borrowing clothes with other people. If you don’t borrow any of your mom’s stuff, maybe just sit down and talk to her about it. If my mom really, really liked something I had though, I’m sure I could part with it if she asked. Clothes can always be replaced.

Me and my mum mostly share clothes, she has a small body no big boobs while on the other side I have big boob, she lends my stuff and I lend hers. She’ll become 40 this year. We are almost the same tall size.
Sometimes people think we are sisters or that I am the mother!
It kinda bugs me!!!

I have no idea, my mom always wanted me to dress (the styles) like her :-)

I never had this problem with my mom. My clothes never fit her because she is taller and bustier than I am, and even when I was in high school and college there was enough of a weight difference between us that she couldn’t even attempt to fit into my things.

On the other hand, I could easily wear a lot of her clothes. Not everything, but tops and skirts. I had a summer job in college with a no jeans/shorts rule. Really stupid, because it was a daycare center and I spent all my time doing messy things with kids. The director wanted us to look like actual teachers. I didn’t own anything other than jeans and casual shorts and didn’t bother to go buy them since I had ready access to my mom’s closet. Yes, it drove her crazy because a lot of the things were dry clean only and I’d manage to get fingerpaint or grass stains on them. If she’d put her foot down, I would have stopped, but she never did anything other than express mild annoyance.

Anyway, like others have suggested, I think you should calmly ask your mom to check with you before borrowing something. You can always say no if she wants to wear something you plan on wearing. Does she at least take good care of your things? Wash them and put them back?

The mom in me wants to know who pays for your clothes. If you do, you have all the more right to expect her to respect your things. If you parents still pay for your clothes, you may need to be a bit more understanding about loaning them out.

@MissAusten I think her point is that she isn’t loaning them out. While she is still under her parents’ roof and they may still be purchasing her clothes…they are hers.

I’m 39 and definitely don’t look or feel like an “older lady”. In fact, I easily pass for late twenties, and almost always get carded when buying alcohol. I remember when I was a teenager and felt that my current age was old, but it really isn’t. (you’re only as old as you feel) I don’t wear super mini mini-skirts or show of my belly, but I don’t completely cover my body either. There are lots of clothes out there that a 39 year old and an 18 year old can wear.

I do think your mom should ask if she can borrow your clothes. You may have plans to wear a certain item, and I don’t think that it is fair if she took it without asking.

Just wait. You will soon be 39, and more than likely shop in the junior section like many “older ladies” do. ;)

@tifa I was actually just kidding.

god, I turned 50 a few months back and I am still young, women in their 30s are just babes (as in babies), there is no way 30s can be considered old. By the way, I do think mothers should ask before borrowing their children’s clothes.

Does your mom pay for your clothes? If she does, maybe she thinks they’re at least partially hers.

It depends on what type of clothing they want to wear. Some clothing fits for a variety of ages, while others don’t. I don’t take clothing from my kids, because I wouldn’t fit in them, being that they are kids and I’m a full grown… grown up. And, I’ve found my style and their style is not what would flatter me or s something I want to wear.. However, my older girls can fit into my shoes, we all share flip flops, and sometimes they wear my sweaters. But that’s about it.

Flip that. When I was a kid for shits & giggles me & my two brothers would raid Mum’s wardrobe &..........ah, oh dear. Bites tongue XD

Your Mom wants to look hot. Be proud. You should be able to wear your stuff though.

The real trouble is when she gets very old and she wants you to wear her velour pants and sweaters. Nobody wants them. Especially my 22 yr old niece.

@Blackberry still waiting for you to CALL ME :):)

@jazmina88 To me, having a ‘hot’ mom is inappropriate. I always want to think of my mom as someone that’s beautiful and I’d have a hard time seeing other people think of her as an object.