What is your opinion of mothers with tattoos and piercings?
I would like to know people’s opinions. I have tattoos and piercings and I’m pregnant.
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So once a women gets a tattoo they’re not allowed to have a child?
Mothers had lives before another person came storming out of their hooha.
They are individuals, not slaves to the idea of motherhood.
You can’t expect someone to change who they are fundamentally just because they’re a parent. As long as they teach them well, and give them decent values. I say everyone should should shut the hell up about it.
I don’t think so. How does that make them trashy? Personally i really don’t like anybody with tons of tattoos and piercings all over the place, it’s very unattractive to me, but a few here and there i don’t consider trashy, and certainly not for the sole reason of the person having them being a mom….there is nothing wrong with moms doing these kinds of things.
Them being a mom makes no difference to me personally. The artwork itself speaks volumes though. I’m a big fan of tattoos so when I see them, I get interested unless the work is, in my opinion, shitty. Then I tend to hold my nose in the air a bit.
There is nothing wrong with it. You have just as much right to be an individual as anybody else. Most people who would say something along the lines of it making you trashy, or whatever adjective they used, probably doesn’t like tattoos in the first place.
I agree with @asmonet. I don’t see anything wrong with it at all, and the kid gets to brag about his cool mom =)
More interested in how she treats her children. Is this your first? Good luck and welcome on board! To both motherhood and fluther!
Yes, it is my first:)
And thank you.
I have 3 tats and my daughter is about as stable and secure as they come. Unless you think with your ink it shouldn’t affect your parenting.
How can it be trashy and hot at the same time?
Other people’s opinions don’t matter.
Babies have no understanding of piercings at all. While learning to explore their world, they will pull and tug on anything their little fingers can grab.
A word to the wise for anyone with facial or ear piercings, particularly septum piercings. This could get painful for you. Ouch!
As for what anyone else thinks about the subject, who cares? It’s totally irrelevant. I see no correlation between body modification and parenting skills positive or negative. One has nothing to do with the other.
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Welcome to Fluther.
Be the best mom you can be. That’s all that matters. And congratulations to you.
Body modification has been around for much longer than today’s social standards. Native Africans have some of the most extreme modifications and they are able to successfully raise their children. I think that speaks for itself.
I think it’s well for everybody (with or without tats or piercings) to remember what Jackie Kennedy said:
“If you bungle raising your children, I don’t think whatever else you do matters very much.”
Whatever else we may think of her she definitely got that one right.
And regardless of how much of a blowhard people think Donald Trump is or what you think of his hair or how ostentatious his wealth, the significant part of his legacy is that he and Ivanna raised great kids.
You don’t see them in the tabloids boozing it up on the town or getting out of cars flashing their naked hoo-hoos like other spoiled brat rich kids.
They were far too busy getting good grades at Wharton and subsequently working hard.
Values matter far more than physical appearance.
Unless there is an update, if you need epidural and you have a tatoo at the location, you can’‘t have it. So I hope you don“t need it.
I just put the question up. I don“t think it is a myth.
My friend has a tattoo all the way down her spine and she got an epideral. It didnt do nothing but damage the tattoo in a small area.
What you think of the person and what you think of their parenting can be completely different. People might stereotype you as a ‘bad parent’ because tattoos are not attractive to everyone and usually associated with rebellious behavior. However, that is their problem, not yours. It is your body so do what you want with it as long as it’s not harmful to your baby. I do not like tattoos but I dislike stereotypes even more. I agree with the other posts before me. It’s not so much the tattoos that people are worried about. They are more concerned about the way that people raise their kids.
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Fresh ones at this point, AFAIK, are a no-go. It’s a little late to be worrying about the tattoo.
In general, I tend to disapprove of more than a couple piercings. P
Congrats on your pregnancy and welcome!
Tattoos or piercings don’t make any difference IMO as long as you love the child and treat the child with TLC.
I do not see any relationship between body art and parenting ability. However, I think tattoos and piercings effect most, if not everyone’s perception of others on some level. Even if only slightly registering in one’s subconscious, they play a role in the initial 1st impression people have of you. Whether this impression is positive or negative depends on what people connect body art to. I am sure some people’s assumptions are drug user or criminal when seeing anything more than a small stud in each earlobe and butterfly adorned shoulder. Others may think of hippies, vegans, and babies in Birkenstocks. I try hard not to form impressions about people based on visuals alone, but its very instincual. My automatic thoughts before checking myself would be based on the appearance of the tattoos/piercings – she’s interesting & unique or she’s trying to hide her normality by looking rebellious & cool…... I am ashamed I still do this, but try hard to be more aware of what motivates my thoughts about others.
The point I’m trying to make is that tatoos and piercings are no indication of a person’s ability to love and care for a child (assuming there are no swastikas or other symbols of hate!). They are a personal expression and likely speak to some aspect of the person they’re on, but opinions people have of others based on their appearance alone are merely guesses.
Not really relevant, but I personally love body art :)
My personal opinion is that tattoos and piercings look cheap and common. However, I have had my opinions challenged by meeting a wide variety of people, and some of those I previously stereotyped in this way have proven to be some of the nicest people I have ever met. The point?
a. I was wrong to judge by my personal opinion
b. If someone doesn’t accept you as an infinitely valuable person, regardless of their opinion of your appearance, the problem is theirs not yours.
c. It has no bearing on your ability to be a mother
All the best for your pregnancy and the future.
Personally I don’t give a crap what kind of body art a person has as long as they treat people well.
They are just people like anyone else. It’s not as if the tattoo is going to make a mirror imprint on the kid.
Really. If you run into anyone who thinks different, it is clear they are a judgmental ass who isn’t worth giving the time of day to.
Just curious…has anyone had the audacity to actually say something to you about it?
I have a tattoo over my entire lower back and when I had my son there was no problem with having the epidural. They were more than willing to let me get one.
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