(NSFW) what makes for great foreplay?

Full body massage.

Rope, toys and have her wear some fuck me pumps.

Everything else will follow. ;-)

Roleplay: Pretend she is a random woman you are picking up and you go home for a one-night stand.

Welcome to Fluther. I like @jjmah‘s idea. In these things, it is easy to go too far. Unless you’re already into real kink, less is usually more. Just have some good clean fun.

Blindfolds, Pop Rocks and lots of Silly String. Take your time with it or just go crazy!
Why do I give away all my secrets??

Not much into role play. She will need some convincing.

whip cream.

You could try to ‘forget’ about sex/intercourse for a bit and simply enjoy each others, (also your own) bodies for some time.
Bath together, apply body cream on each others body after the bathing, sit together on the bed and explore yours and your wife’s body (parts) together (add some massage oil?), without being distracted by the idea that you want to hump the other in two minutes.
After an hour or so, you’ll hump each other anyway.

Have her lie on her side and gradually kiss her entire body, avoiding her breasts and pubic area until much later.

Start with tops of her feet, then her soles, toes (sucking gently on each one), ankles, calves, shins, knees both front and back, thighs but not right to the top on her inner thighs, kiss her buttocks and the small of her back, her tummy, her chest including her ribs, breastbone, the place where her breasts emerge from her chest (only), above her breasts and her shoulders, down the arms, including her elbows (inside and out), her wrists and each finger gently sucking each digit), entire back leading to back of neck, earlobes, cheeks, forehead, eyebrows, nose, chin, lips and so on.

There is no such thing as foreplay.

It’s all sex.

@MeinTeil you, good sir or ma’am, have a lot to learn. lol

I find we’re both way more into it when we don’t say “Lets go have sex” and instead just ease into it naturally. Especially when we’re being very loving, or taking a bath or massaging one another and not thinking about sex. And then you realize how much you love the person and how badly you want to make love to them. And its better.

Stop on the way to your destination and get some food you normally don’t get to start the night on a different note.

Take a bubble bath together, candles and chocolate and rub her all over with suds and make sure there is a little wine- save some for later on the couch for more foot rubbing!

Take a blanket for the floor like your camping lay there and kiss and rub and talk leading to kissing and perhaps some missionary, doggy or cowgirl.

then you go to bed and have the rest of the wine and repeat!

I agree with @deni

Yes.Wear a tophat and recite the Gettysburg Address while juggling hamsters! ;)

Champagne and a bottle of light/thin lotion.

A fine meal, beautiful music, a warm bath. Get all the senses aroused before bed time.

@lucillelucillelucille Where were you back when I was unmarried and looking? :-)

@ETpro -:)

@Winters I’m merely suggesting that precoital activities are sex as well.

It’s those that don’t relaise this that have a lot to learn.

What I take for granted may not be the norm for others so here it is:

Showered/bathed bodies
Clean sheets
Not hungry/not thirsty
Cool temperature room
Relaxing music or movie as background
Holding and stroking long enough to reacquaint with the entire body
Deep kissing
Lots of oral sex
...

@Neizvestnaya For me that could easily become the main act. :-)