(NSFW)How do you clear your mind? How do you stop thinking, analyzing, and worrying and just focus?

By licking it.

Maybe you need to take a break….that usually gets my focus back!

I’ve encountered the same issues. For me, I focus on her, or something that I know will excite me, or simply the entire situation.

I think it’s an issue of getting comfortable with who you’re with. It sounds like it’s someone new. You may want to not worry about intercourse for a while, and do other stuff while you get more comfortable with each other.

The condom killed it for me, too. I was so used to feeling everything. It seemed like there was something broken between us. Besides we didn’t really have that connection in love making styles.

So that’s about it. Dispense with intercourse and condom and do other fun stuff. Oh, talking would help, too, just so you are all on the same page. The worst thing is when you go soft and you’re imagining she’s totally bummed and you won’t be doing this again, because you go even softer. Yuck! I’m glad I don’t have to worry about that shit any more. Although I wish I had a chance to redeem myself. Oh well. Water long gone under that bridge.

Focusing on making love rather than intercourse builds the bond between you that eliminates any performance anxiety that is the major erection killer. When the two of you feel like two people merged into one warm, safe, shared envelope, whatever happens will be fine for both. Relax and get in touch with your self and each other and then a rumbling freight train roaring through the room will hardly be noticed.

When I lose my focus I pull out and have her rub while I look at her curvy body, then lean in a kiss then neck then chest then nipples then he’s up and ready to explore.

“thinking, analyzing, and worrying” That sounds pretty focused to me.