Social Question
Why are people so against gays, and gay marriages?
Okay I know I might be too young to understand this little fit everyone is throwing about this gay marriage and gays in general. I mean…I know the bible (or what ever) says that it has to be guys and girls. But C’mon it’s only religion. It doesn’t prove anything about it. I mean if you think about it. We’re all sinners anyways. So why make something like that so big. And that brings me to say that: “I think gay marriages should be approved” But it’s all in my opinion. I mean…I’m honestly not really sure about my sexuality. I can’t tell if I’m either Gay or Bi. But I do consider myself straight. Just why is it a big deal to everyone? Do you support them or not?
71 Answers
“I can’t tell if I’m either Gay or Bi. But I do consider myself straight.” What does that even mean? XD
Anyway, I really have no idea why people are so obsessed with this issue. Maybe they just need something to fear and hate. Beyond that assessment, I haven’t a clue. Society in general pisses me off, so I’m not usually surprised when it ends up being a douche in new and creative ways.
@iWitch Haha well I mean…..sigh it’s sorta hard to explain in my way….Just that I can’t tell if I’m gay or bi or what ever. I’m just confused….And yeah I know what you mean…it won’t really surprise me either…
People fear things they don’t understand. Other people take advantage of that fear to build up their own power.
You may come to learn, in time, that “religion” is not prefixed with “only”. It is, quite simply, the most Serious Business in the history of mankind.
In the West, at least, marriage was very much a Church thing; recently the government’s been getting involved, though.
Personally, I am not ‘against’ gays so much as I am against what you might call gayness.
@iWitch Why do you assume that it’s about fear and hatred?
@Vincent_Lloyd Ah, sorry, honey. Message me if you ever want to talk. ;)
@Nullo I can tell you are the type of person I’d have to restrain myself from strangling in a debate, so I’m not going to even go there. Nothing personal. I just hate people who don’t support my ability to marry the most beautiful woman in my world.
@boots Brainwashing? You’re gonna pull that card? ;)
Listen, I’m a Christian Conservative. I have no problems with gays at all, and I’m frankly getting to a point that I don’t even care. I kinda wished people would shut up on the matter. I know that sounds mean, but it’s like every freakin’ day I hear something about gays and straights. You want that life style? Then go ahead and do whatever the hell you want, but don’t bitch and whine if the government says no. I’m sorry for being mean, but this topic is getting very annoying. I still love you though, Vennie. :P
Having been brought up with a definition of what is ‘normal’ or ‘right’ some people can’t handle the concept that the world is different depending on who you are.
Anything that threatens their perception of reality moves the goal posts and they feel threatened.
If up is no longer up and your down is different to my down then I might be wrong and my way of referencing the world could lead to me being compromised. That can’t be allowed to happen because my own safety is paramount. Fear, basically
How that manifests itself in the way of homophobia and hate is something completely different. Probably on the lines of ‘what you can’t change, destroy’.
@iWitch Thanks. :) I don’t know much honestly….
@ducky_dnl and yeah I know…But I mean I just had to ask since it was something I was watching on the news with my cousins today and they were all like “eww that’s disgusting” and stuff like that…But I know…it’s basically everyday. There are a lot that approve of it and a lot that don’t. But I think they should give up and let it happen. But I still love you too
Ignorance and religion based dogmatism explains most of it.
Right wing dogmatism accounts for much of the rest.
I will just say this. The gay thing is a battle that will be lost just like letting blacks sit in the front of the bus or drink at the same water fountain. In twenty years people opposing gay marriages and homosexuality will feel the same shame my mother does for at one time defending those policies against blacks.
I feel sorry for you.
@ducky_dnl It would suit a lot of heterosexual people, I don’t assume anything about your sexuality, for the debate to stop because generally it doesn’t effect them, i.e. it doesn’t really effect me and I’m tired of hearing about it so it can stop thank you very much.
I would also add that people shouldn’t accept what a government says just because it’s the government. Where would we be without people bitching and whining about apartheid, for example.
I wouldn’t be comfortable saying ‘black people can do what they want as far as I’m concerned but if the government says they can’t then they need to stop moaning about it.’
The same goes here for me.
@ducky_dnl The only excuse for blind hatred is brainwashing.
Not saying you’re guilty of it!!!
I think we should just remove marriage from anything on the books. Marriage can be a church thing. They can pour wine on the soiled bedsheets and hand out a broken harp. But you don’t get tax breaks or hospital stuff or insurance.
Keep the word. Straight people have destroyed it with a 50% divorce rate. Gays aren’t going to destroy marriage. The straight people have already done the job.
@johnpowell Yeah… I agree.
But if they want the title, I say let ‘em have it.
You know what pisses me off? This whole “marriage is a church thing” nonsense. I do believe that this country does NOT have an official religion, and Christianity is not the only religion practiced here. Why would a law be based on what a certain religious group thinks when it affects everyone, even those not from that religion? Separation of church and state was thought of for a reason. And non-christians i.e. atheists, jews, hindus, etc also get married. So marriage is most definitely not a “church thing”.
/rant.
@PnL :: My bad.. I should have said “religion thing”. It is like calling a soda a Coke.
They think their own pathetic marriages are threatened. They are brainwashed to “defend” things that don’t need defending. They don’t realize the difference between other marriages and their own marriages.
Government-marriage and Bible-marriage are not necessarily the same thing. The government does not need to enforce God’s laws, on issues outside of theft, violence, fraud and pollution.
It is a matter of orderly government and a healthy society, to let all adult consensual marriages occur, no matter who is involved. A government-recognized gay marriage does not threaten one’s allegedly real marriage.
People are stupid, especially when acting in a group. And especially moreso, when acting in a group who has the majority.
I am not against gay marriage. I am not gay. I think everyone has the right to be happy. Maybe they don’t want the courts filled with gay people trying to get a divorce when it don’t work out. I don’t get it either. Religion is not a good reason in my book.
What @Doctor_D and @boots said. And because some people just HAVE to make everybody else’s personal matters their own business. It’s just plain stupidity if you ask me, it’s just so dumb i can’t even think up a word to describe people who have negative opinions about gays and gay marriages, because it has nothing to do with them in the first place and does not affect them one bit. It’s as stupid as being against me because i love chocolate, it’s a senseless attitude to have.
“Its just religion”?
And to say that people are “afraid” of it is ridiculous. Thats such a silly thing to say. ‘Just another one of those “she doesn’t like me, just because shes jealous” responses. Everyone has an opinion, and its never wrong to have one.
I don’t particularly care about the issue. I think too many people are getting divorced. More people getting married won’t help that.
I’m not into the marriage concept to begin with.
I feel like having children is the only good reason for Marriage.. and obviously you can’t make a baby mama out of a gay man, or two lesbians. Saying that I mean, you can’t knock up a gay man and abandon him. So why do you need a legitimate contract between the two of you?
Seems everyone in this thread gave you only one side of the story. I’ll give you the other side. Here are a couple of websites for starters. These are the main (non-religious) points for why people don’t like homosexuality. All information has been researched and sourced. This would all fall under rationale, formal science, and social science point of view. Genetics factors are still being worked on by the scientific community.
This site is all the different types of disease statistics. The numbers are extraordinarily high when compared to heterosexuality. One of the main concerns.
Link to statistics
These two sites have various reasons.
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Here is the other site
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I don’t have a problem with same sex marriages and I think they should be legal. That being said, I think it’s a combination of things that cause people to unite against it. For some people, it’s religion, some it’s fear, and for some it’s just ignorance. As far as fear is concerned, I don’t think it’s that people are afraid of gays, but instead, I think they are afraid to admit that being gay isn’t a choice and that it is just who they are. Some people really believe it’s a choice and with gay marriage being illegal, they see it as validation of their belief.
bECAUSE they are Homophobic, hate gays!, think that kissing or having sex with the same sex is disgusting.
@Nullo “Personally, I am not ‘against’ gays so much as I am against what you might call gayness.” – aww, shucks…sounds like you’re against gays to me.
Yeah, all facts have been researched by a group with an extreme bias. I know who you are. You’ve come on this site under several different names now.
To answer the question: People are against gays and gay marriage largely because of religion. Because they base their lives and their moral code on a 2000-year-old book and what that book says goes. No other factors matter. Additionally, people have become convinced that marriage is inherently tied to religion (in this country, Christianity) and thus gays shouldn’t be married.
If not religion, then ignorance. People simply don’t understand homosexuality. They think it’s all about diseases and drugs like @Void here or they think it’s all about sex and not about love. Or they think gay people “eat da poo poo”. Ignorance and religion are the main reasons for being against it. I can at least accept religion as a somewhat valid excuse. Ignorance I will not accept.
@DominicX, “Yeah, all facts have been researched by a group with an extreme bias”
It isn’t one group. It’s various scientists from different groups. Also, science by definition means unbiased. I’m not sure where you are getting biases from or can even confirm such to exist…Do you think the physicists community is biased from the discovery of the laws of physics?
@DominicX, “I know who you are. You’ve come on this site under several different names now.”
You know who I am? What the heck are you talking about? What names? I just found this site last week..
I gave you a few researched starter points from a non-religous perspective. Now, show me how do you confirm that people hate homosexuals out of “fear”,“ignornace”, “religion”, “homophobic”?
@Void Oh dear, ‘science by definition is unbiased’ – depends on the science, my dear…after all some people think creationism and ID talk is science but it isn’t.
There is someone who comes on here all the time and posts links to NARTH, which is a biased organization. Of course their “unbiased studies” are going to be against homosexuality because they themselves are against homosexuality. Their studies feed their agenda.
Hatred for homosexuals is out of fear and ignorance because many of claims made by so-called “gay haters” are ignorant. 1) Homosexuality is a choice. No, it’s not. The fact that many people who are against homosexuality think that it’s a choice when it is not, shows ignorance. They are ignorant of the truth. 2) Homosexuals can’t love; it’s only about sex. Again, false. Many haters of homosexuality make this false claim that homosexuals are lustful animals who cannot have a lasting loving relationship, even though they can. Thus this belief shows ignorance.
The claim these NARTH people are making is not “homosexuality is related to AIDS, therefore I hate it”, it’s “I hate homosexuality, now what can I find to make that hate legitimate?” The hate starts first; these pathetic attempts at legitimizing the hate come later.
@DominicX, “There is someone who comes on here all the time and posts links to NARTH, which is a biased organization. Of course their “unbiased studies” are going to be against homosexuality because they themselves are against homosexuality. Their studies feed their agenda.”
I didn’t just link you to Narth. The first link was a disease statistic conducted by various people. The second website was from the social science perspective. As far as Narth is concerned, it’s a well known organization for research in homosexual matters. It doesn’t just consist of the same people within the group. It’s various scientists from various groups, which is then compiled into one organization. Furthermore, all the studies conducted can be done by any other scientist. This is how the scientific method works, therefore, it can’t be biased. As I mentioned with the previous example, when the physics community discovered the laws of physics, were they biased in there research? It is a group devoted to physics after all? However, all the work can be confirmed using the scientific method. There aren’t any agendas accept seeking out explanation.
@DominicX, “Hatred for homosexuals is out of fear and ignorance because many of claims made by so-called “gay haters” are ignorant.”
How do you confirm fear? Ignorance I can accept because there are those who are ignorant, but how do you know it’s many? Do you have some statistics for it, or is this based on speculations? I linked you a lot of evidence that has nothing to do with fear, religion or ignorance. It’s all based on various scientific fields. Science deals with facts as I’m sure you know that.
@DominicX, “Homosexuality is a choice. No, it’s not. The fact that many people who are against homosexuality think that it’s a choice when it is not, shows ignorance.”
That means you are saying that homosexuality is genetic. Why are all scientific results inconclusive then? Some said yes while others then showed false. Also, if you want to talk about biases, self-selection bias was conducted during the twin studies, which was later found out and criticized by the scientific community. It’s unclear if it’s choice or not because the entire scientific community as a whole does not find results to be conclusive, otherwise it would be universally excepted and there would be no more issues with this topic.
@DominicX, “They are ignorant of the truth. 2) Homosexuals can’t love; it’s only about sex. Again, false. Many haters of homosexuality make this false claim that homosexuals are lustful animals who cannot have a lasting loving relationship, even though they can. Thus this belief shows ignorance.”
Again I can accept the fact that such ignorance exists, but you keep labeling this as many. I would like to see statistics of such claims. I didn’t even hear of such arguments.
@DominicX, “The claim these NARTH people are making is not “homosexuality is related to AIDS, therefore I hate it”, it’s “I hate homosexuality, now what can I find to make that hate legitimate?” The hate starts first; these pathetic attempts at legitimizing the hate come later.”
Refer to what I wrote in the first comment regarding how scientific method works. Furthermore, it isn’t just narth, there are many other organizations. I only linked a few for starters. Some other examples are American Psychological Association, American Psychiatric Association, and National Association of Social Workers. I didn’t even get into the hard science such as evolutionary mutations. The point is, it’s not just “ignorance” “fear” “homophobic” “religion, there is a lot of reasoning and evidence for it.
@Void Clearly, you’re not a scientist or in a science field, because your links are atrocious. When you’re trying to link to statistics or scientific reports, you should be linking to the journals, pubmed, cdc, and other credible sites. A site that opens up with the title “Why Heterosexuality Is Right And Homosexual Acts Wrong” is not reliable, since its header itself is an opinion rather than a fact. As any scientist worth their salt knows, there’s no place for opinions in science. On top of that, that heading is grammatically incorrect, which doesn’t exactly speak highly of the person who put it together. Honestly, wiki is more reliable than that site.
To prove my point, let’s take one of the bullet points from the stats site and analyze it, shall we?
“Another study found that: 1) amoebiasis, a parasitic disease, afflicts around 32% of homosexuals; 2) giardiasis, also a parasitic disease, afflicts 14% of homosexuals (NO heterosexuals in the study were found to have either amoebiasis or giardiasis); 3) gonorrhea afflicts 14% of homosexuals; and 4) 11% of homosexuals had anal warts.”
Ok, so it discusses giardiasis and focuses on its impact on homosexuals. To put things in perspective, here’s a little bit of info about giardiasis. “Giardiasis occurs worldwide with increased prevalence in areas with poor water treatment facilities and unsanitary conditions. The area of highest prevalence is the tropics and subtropics. Infection may be caused by poor hygiene, giardiasis has high infection rates in daycare centers and nursing homes, though the groups most at risk for infection are overseas travelers and hikers.” source
So, following the logic of the site you provided, here are some other things that are wrong in addition to homosexuality: Living in tropics and subtropics, day care centers, nursing homes, hiking, traveling etc.
See what I mean?
Now you might say, “Ah! But I linked to all these other sites. They’re not all bad!” Here’s why I’m not even considering your NARTH links – NARTH stands for National Association for Research & Therapy of Homosexuality. Wtf? How does that seem unbiased to you? They have a clear objective. This is akin to when tobacco companies were the ones in charge of researching whether it is bad for your health.
So next time you try to say you’ve got science backing you up, analyze the source and then provide us with credible links. I might suggest a science course or two too.
You’re purporting the false dichotomy that homosexuality is either choice or genetic. What about a product of environmental influences? People always leave that one out. They assume if you weren’t born gay, you made a conscious choice to will yourself to become attracted to the same sex because choosing what gives you an erection is so very easy for kids and the choice is logical of course, because who wouldn’t want to be gay? The insults, the taunts, the hatred, the religious conflict, it’s all wonderful. Who wouldn’t want that?
No one has even been to explain to me how a person, born straight because we’re all born straight, wills themselves to be attracted to the same sex. No one, ever in the 4 years I’ve been on Q&A sites has ever been able to explain how that is done.
Science doesn’t deal in “wrong” or “hate”. Science doesn’t prove that homosexuality is “wrong” because there is a higher incidence of HIV among people who practice anal sex. I already acknowledge that and I myself do not practice anal sex. “Wrong” is a moral term.
@DominicX I clap for your energy on this one – too exhausted today to deal with homophobes, just finished reading on Uganda and the U.S. evangelicals again…yeah, feeling lots of hatred right now towards religion and people…don’t want to bother on this one.
@PnL, “Clearly, you’re not a scientist or in a science field, because your links are atrocious. When you’re trying to link to statistics or scientific reports, you should be linking to the journals, pubmed, cdc, and other credible sites. A site that opens up with the title “Why Heterosexuality Is Right And Homosexual Acts Wrong” is not reliable, since its header itself is an opinion rather than a fact. As any scientist worth their salt knows, there’s no place for opinions in science. On top of that, that heading is grammatically incorrect, which doesn’t exactly speak highly of the person who put it together. Honestly, wiki is more reliable than that site.”
My, my, the arrogance of ignorance. You obviously don’t know what sources are. Everything that was written is coming out of credible scientific sources, hence, the footnotes? You see that little number next to every statement? You have to scroll down and you will see the scientific source.
@PnL, “Ok, so it discusses giardiasis and focuses on its impact on homosexuals. To put things in perspective, here’s a little bit of info about giardiasis. “Giardiasis occurs worldwide with increased prevalence in areas with poor water treatment facilities and unsanitary conditions. The area of highest prevalence is the tropics and subtropics. Infection may be caused by poor hygiene, giardiasis has high infection rates in daycare centers and nursing homes, though the groups most at risk for infection are overseas travelers and hikers.” source So, following the logic of the site you provided, here are some other things that are wrong in addition to homosexuality: Living in tropics and subtropics, day care centers, nursing homes, hiking, traveling etc See what I mean?”
Alright so it shows that “infection rates in daycare centers and nursing homes”. What is the percentage though? “though the groups most at risk for infection are overseas travelers and hikers.” This doesn’t speak about the sexual orientations of the travelers or hikers, so how does this show that it isn’t just homosexuals? It says it occurs world wide while the study I showed, shows that it occurs among homosexuals. Where does it say that it’s non-homosexuals who experience it worldwide? The study I gave is specific in the numbers and it’s specific in the orientation. Furthermore, you cherry picked one out of the hundreds of others sources and you didn’t even do a good job in disproving it due to lack of evidence. Again, refer to my previous statement, all footnotes are credible scietific sources.
@PnL, “Now you might say, “Ah! But I linked to all these other sites. They’re not all bad!” Here’s why I’m not even considering your NARTH links – NARTH stands for National Association for Research & Therapy of Homosexuality. Wtf? How does that seem unbiased to you? They have a clear objective. This is akin to when tobacco companies were the ones in charge of researching whether it is bad for your health.”
Did you bother to read what I wrote earlier? How is the scientific method biased? The studies conducted can be conducted by all who wish to do so. Yet, the studies were not proven false.
@PnL. “So next time you try to say you’ve got science backing you up, analyze the source and then provide us with credible links. I might suggest a science course or two too.”
Refer to previous statements. Looks like you just eat your own statements.
@DominicX, “You’re purporting the false dichotomy that homosexuality is either choice or genetic. What about a product of environmental influences? People always leave that one out. They assume if you weren’t born gay, you made a conscious choice to will yourself to become attracted to the same sex because choosing what gives you an erection is so very easy for kids and the choice is logical of course, because who wouldn’t want to be gay? The insults, the taunts, the hatred, the religious conflict, it’s all wonderful. Who wouldn’t want that? No one has even been to explain to me how a person, born straight because we’re all born straight, wills themselves to be attracted to the same sex. No one, ever in the 4 years I’ve been on Q&A sites has ever been able to explain how that is done.”
Environmental influences is just as inconclusive as the genetics are. These main factors are still being studied. It is not universally excepted by the scientific community that environmental or genetics is the cause. This is precisely why I gave you rationale and formal science.
@DominicX, “Science doesn’t deal in “wrong” or “hate”. Science doesn’t prove that homosexuality is “wrong” because there is a higher incidence of HIV among people who practice anal sex. I already acknowledge that and I myself do not practice anal sex. “Wrong” is a moral term.”
I didn’t mention wrong or hate. I said the statistical high rate of disease amongst homosexuals is a major concern for why people do not allow same-sex marriages and dislike homosexuals in general. The various other reasons are listed in my first reply.
@boots, “Guys, please stop feeding the troll.”
You are a clever one. When all rationale/evidence arguments are no longer available, you fall back on primitive behavior such as name callings. You do realize I was simply answering @Vincent_Lloyd question? You’re the one’s that wanted to argue and now you call me the troll? This entire thread was biased for the fact that no one mentioned all the facts I presented, so I was simply giving @Vincent_Lloyd another perspective.
@Simone_De_Beauvoir, ”@DominicX I clap for your energy on this one – too exhausted today to deal with homophobes, just finished reading on Uganda and the U.S. evangelicals again…yeah, feeling lots of hatred right now towards religion and people…don’t want to bother on this one.”
After all I presented, I’m still a homophobe? This is how you argue? And you ask why no one takes you seriously?
Btw, @PNL, how easily you dismissed the scientists without arguing any of the points presented. Wouldn’t you have the upper hand if you can disprove the studies rather then being dismissive?
@Void Oh, another coward hiding behind a new username. Splendid
@Simone_De_Beauvoir, ah, how undeceive you’re. Now I’m a coward? or am I perhaps a mixture of a fearful, homophobic, religious, ignorant, troll, coward?
Look everyone stop picking up on Void he’s not a coward or troll. Plus arguing won’t do anything. So stop.
[mod says] Let’s stop making this personal, folks. Please remember to disagree without being disagreeable.
And I am saying that those are not the major reasons people dislike homosexuals or homosexuality. These reasons regarding disease are brought up after the fact for most people. Biases against homosexuality are not due to disease, they are do mostly to religion and ignorance. 80% of the residents of the United States claim to be Christian. The majority of Christians believe that the Bible prohibits homosexual activity. Most of those people follow their religion and even if they don’t hate homosexuals or homosexuality, they do believe that homosexual acts are wrong and homosexuals should not act on their inclination. On the more fanatical side, of course, you have people like Fred Phelps who believe that all of the world’s problems can be traced to homosexuality.
People already have a dislike for homosexuality, based on a number of things. It could be because their religion thinks it’s wrong, it could be because they simply see it as “gross” or it could be because they are inherently fearful of men being in the submissive sexual position and thus see homosexuality as a threat to masculinity. Reasons like disease are brought up afterward in an attempt to legitimize this hate or dislike.
Whether or not you consider those “legitimate” reasons to dislike homosexuals or homosexuality, those are not the reasons why the majority of people who dislike homosexuals/homosexuality do.
@DominicX, “Biases against homosexuality are not due to disease, they are do mostly to religion and ignorance. 80% of the residents of the United States claim to be Christian. The majority of Christians believe that the Bible prohibits homosexual activity. Most of those people follow their religion and even if they don’t hate homosexuals or homosexuality, they do believe that homosexual acts are wrong and homosexuals should not act on their inclination. On the more fanatical side, of course, you have people like Fred Phelps who believe that all of the world’s problems can be traced to homosexuality.”
First of all, the statistical diseases are only one of the links I sent you. Did you read at least the Link 2 and Link 3, that deal with the rationale- social science of it? Followed by the Narth research? Furthermore, the statistics are correct in the amount of Christians, but you are mistaking religion with religious. You can be associated with a religion and not practice the religion at all. As far as I know, there are no statistics that show how many of these Christians actually practice the religion or believe in everything it says. If you can show me statistics for this, then I will surely agree with you, otherwise, you are simply speculating, thus, not a valid argument.
@DominicX, “People already have a dislike for homosexuality, based on a number of things. It could be because their religion thinks it’s wrong, it could be because they simply see it as “gross” or it could be because they are inherently fearful of men being in the submissive sexual position and thus see homosexuality as a threat to masculinity. Reasons like disease are brought up afterward in an attempt to legitimize this hate or dislike. Whether or not you consider those “legitimate” reasons to dislike homosexuals or homosexuality, those are not the reasons why the majority of people who dislike homosexuals/homosexuality do.”
Again, you need to back this up with some research, otherwise, you are just speculating. The links I gave you were researched answers. I didn’t think this out of my head that “many” , “majority” do X because of X.
All your links are biased. I can’t take them seriously, sorry. They’re published by organizations that have a clear anti-homosexual agenda behind them, so of course anything they publish is going to support their agenda since everything they research is seen through the lens of anti-homosexual bias.
No problem, but just know a scientific method can be conducted by all. If it was biased, then it wouldn’t be a scientific method. Since all the links are done scientifically, they cannot be biased. By your philosophy, all scientific fields are biased. The physicists are bias in physics, the chemist in chemistry, etc…
The difference is that physicists and chemists are usually not studying subjects with social and moral associations. It’s hard to have a social or moral agenda and bias when studying chemical reactions or gravitational properties of rolling objects…
Let’s examine the first link. Here’s a sentence from that link: “That is, they simply do not fit the minimum necessary condition for a marriage to exist—namely, the union of a man and a woman.”
So you’re telling me that the scientific method was used to determine the definition of message? Sorry, but this is social and moral, not scientific. There is no scientific aspect of marriage. Marriage is a social construct. The first link is not scientific in any way.
You’re trying to eliminate the social and moral aspect of homosexuality. You’re trying to act like opposition to homosexuality comes from scientific fact, scientific fact that proves that it’s wrong. This is faulty to begin with science doesn’t deal with “wrong” in a moral sense. Science is not going to tell you that a same-sex attraction is wrong; it doesn’t answer questions like that.
The other links that argue that same-sex marriage is detrimental to children, all they do is claim that facts are not widely available. That doesn’t prove anything. The other claims draw on stereotypes (gay men are more promiscuous and thus would cheat on each other at higher rates). Again, how can you can prove the negative effects of gay marriage without observing gay marriage? If gay marriage isn’t even allowed, then there are no observations to be made.
I’m also a little annoyed that I’m the only one replying. I know there are other people interested in this topic, but I guess no one has anything else to add. Oh well, I am not done arguing this, not by a long-shot.
The first link demonstrates its biases and false assumptions quite well. The first link establishes the fact that marriage has to be associated with procreation and that there is “no reason” to allow marriage between people who can’t procreate naturally. Why? No reason is ever provided for that. We are just supposed to accept the fact that marriage must be tied to procreation, but there is no reason given.
It also makes the claim that homosexual marriages damage heterosexual marriages because it causes straight people to turn gay and become enticed by homosexual marriages. The explanation does not even entertain the idea that a person in that heterosexual marriage was LIVING A LIE and with the allowing of same sex marriages, felt compelled to reveal their true homosexual nature and pursue a homosexual relationship.
The part about homosexuals having more mental health problems, that’s just wonderful. Completely tasteless and tactless. Homosexuals have higher rates of depression and suicide because they are MARGINALIZED BY SOCIETY. They have internal religious conflicts, conflicts with their parents because their parents and family reject them. Homosexual kids are kicked out by their parents, mocked by their peers, no wonder they commit suicide. That passage almost seemed to be mocking the concept of depression and suicide in homosexuals.
I could go on and on, but it’s extremely long. If you have something you want me to disprove, go ahead and highlight it for me. That article is extremely flawed in many many ways.
Are you claiming that you have actually read every page that you have linked to? Some of the links don’t even go anywhere. There are hundreds of thousands of words contained in those links. Don’t chew me out for not having the time to read every word. I doubt you have either.
@DominicX I’ve made my reply; I no longer has any desire to butt heads with irrational and anti-rational opponents whose ultimate argument is some religious book. Their “scientific” arguments are based on publications of groups that are little more than thinly disguised propaganda mills; similar to the “creation science” horse shit. True science embraces the scientific method, which requires rigorous verification of observations and accepts the possibility that ones conclusions may be wrong. These organizations do neither, serving only as a respectable-looking “front” for right-wing evangelicals.
@DominicX I’m back here, applauding you. I just don’t have the energy to deal with anyone who is not interested in rational debate. No matter what you (or I) say, this individual will simply cover his ears and say “Lalalala I can’t hear you”. I’m proud of you, though!
@DominicX, _“The difference is that physicists and chemists are usually not studying subjects with social and moral associations. It’s hard to have a social or moral agenda and bias when studying chemical reactions or gravitational properties of rolling objects…
Wrong. I gave you an example already of genetic studies. Twin studies have received a number of criticisms including self-selection bias where homosexuals with gay siblings are more likely to volunteer for studies.
@DominicX, “Let’s examine the first link. Here’s a sentence from that link: “That is, they simply do not fit the minimum necessary condition for a marriage to exist—namely, the union of a man and a woman.” So you’re telling me that the scientific method was used to determine the definition of message? Sorry, but this is social and moral, not scientific. There is no scientific aspect of marriage. Marriage is a social construct. The first link is not scientific in any way. You’re trying to eliminate the social and moral aspect of homosexuality. You’re trying to act like opposition to homosexuality comes from scientific fact, scientific fact that proves that it’s wrong. This is faulty to begin with science doesn’t deal with “wrong” in a moral sense. Science is not going to tell you that a same-sex attraction is wrong; it doesn’t answer questions like that. The other links that argue that same-sex marriage is detrimental to children, all they do is claim that facts are not widely available. That doesn’t prove anything. The other claims draw on stereotypes (gay men are more promiscuous and thus would cheat on each other at higher rates). Again, how can you can prove the negative effects of gay marriage without observing gay marriage? If gay marriage isn’t even allowed, then there are no observations to be made. The first link demonstrates its biases and false assumptions quite well. The first link establishes the fact that marriage has to be associated with procreation and that there is “no reason” to allow marriage between people who can’t procreate naturally. Why? No reason is ever provided for that. We are just supposed to accept the fact that marriage must be tied to procreation, but there is no reason given. It also makes the claim that homosexual marriages damage heterosexual marriages because it causes straight people to turn gay and become enticed by homosexual marriages. The explanation does not even entertain the idea that a person in that heterosexual marriage was LIVING A LIE and with the allowing of same sex marriages, felt compelled to reveal their true homosexual nature and pursue a homosexual relationship. The part about homosexuals having more mental health problems, that’s just wonderful. Completely tasteless and tactless. Homosexuals have higher rates of depression and suicide because they are MARGINALIZED BY SOCIETY. They have internal religious conflicts, conflicts with their parents because their parents and family reject them. Homosexual kids are kicked out by their parents, mocked by their peers, no wonder they commit suicide. That passage almost seemed to be mocking the concept of depression and suicide in homosexuals.I could go on and on, but it’s extremely long. If you have something you want me to disprove, go ahead and highlight it for me. That article is extremely flawed in many many ways. Are you claiming that you have actually read every page that you have linked to? Some of the links don’t even go anywhere. There are hundreds of thousands of words contained in those links. Don’t chew me out for not having the time to read every word. I doubt you have either.”
Look what you just did. You quoted the prologue and applied it to the entire website. Are you kidding me? The devil is in the details! The details! The information and the people/sources used are under the explanations. This is the same thing @PNL tried against me without looking at footnotes. If you actually would look and read, you would see the backings. For example, “So—what IS marriage, then? Anthropologist Kingsley Davis has said, “The unique trait of what is commonly called marriage is social recognition and approval… of a couple’s engaging in sexual intercourse and bearing and rearing children.” Marriage scholar Maggie Gallagher says that “marriage across societies is a public sexual union that creates kinship obligations and sharing of resources between men, women, and the children their sexual union may produce.” Canadian scholar Margaret A. Somerville says, “Through marriage our society marks out the relationship of two people who will together transmit human life to the next generation and nurture and protect that life.“Another Canadian scholar, Paul Nathanson (who is himself a homosexual), has said, “Because heterosexuality is directly related to both reproduction and survival, ... every human societ[y] has had to promote it actively . ... Heterosexuality is always fostered by a cultural norm” that limits marriage to unions of men and women. He adds that people “are wrong in assuming that any society can do without it.” [emphasis in original]” Do you notice the reference to the scholars who conduct the studies? Furthermore, something you seemed to have misunderstood. For both the physical and the social sciences, the underlying logic of the scientific method is the same: truth is established empirically, and empirical method is established in the practices of the community. That which is true is also real, but reality is broader than truth, by virtue of Maxim, A person takes it that things are as they seem unless he/she has reason to think otherwise. The differences between the two communities, which call for a broader view of what is empirical and what constitutes an explanation in the social sciences, come from two main sources: 1. The presence of subject matter—persons—that feature both free will and private experience, and 2. A greater diversity of sub-communities, calling for more negotiation to bring differing real worlds into agreement. Also, the sources are linked to scientific studies which used the scientific method. How quickly you dismissed all the prestige PHD scholars within the social science community when you’re neither one. All because they seem “biased”. There is no point in arguing with you fore the fact that you just attempt to manipulate everything presented and brushing it off with a few simple words.
Consider this, If for example you don’t approve of what X does, while everyone else does approve. Who makes more sense? One individual or the many? Now, apply this to the homosexual dilemma. Anyone who doesn’t accept homosexuality as an equal is considered a fearful, homophobic, religious, ignorant, coward by your communities. However, your community is very small in size when compared to the rest of the world. If billions of people are not approving it, while a few million of you want it approved, who makes more sense? Do you know what measurements are used when diagnosing someone that doesn’t have physical abnormalities? It’s based on social norms. For example, a person is labeled insane when he/she behaves in what is considered not normal by society. This is how the psychiatric, psychological, etc…other groups work. Unless of course there is a physical abnormalities, but it isn’t clear if homosexuality is genetic.
@stranger_in_a_strange_land, ”@DominicX I’ve made my reply; I no longer has any desire to butt heads with irrational and anti-rational opponents whose ultimate argument is some religious book. Their “scientific” arguments are based on publications of groups that are little more than thinly disguised propaganda mills; similar to the “creation science” horse shit. True science embraces the scientific method, which requires rigorous verification of observations and accepts the possibility that ones conclusions may be wrong. These organizations do neither, serving only as a respectable-looking “front” for right-wing evangelicals.”
Seems like you’re the [removed by Fluther] by giving this irrational and anti-rational reply @stranger_in_a_strange_land, ”People fear things they don’t understand. Other people take advantage of that fear to build up their own power.” which comes out of your personal distastes in justifying your homosexuality. Could you make a more broader statement then that? Who’s these “people” and “other people”. How conveniently you managed to skip all the specifics. Do you have any credible data to back up these absurdities? In regards to the rest of your rant, refer to the reply I gave @DominicX.
@augustlan, ”@DominicX I’m back here, applauding you. I just don’t have the energy to deal with anyone who is not interested in rational debate. No matter what you (or I) say, this individual will simply cover his ears and say “Lalalala I can’t hear you”. I’m proud of you, though!”
Interesting, was it you who said? “@augustlan [mod says] Let’s stop making this personal, folks. Please remember to disagree without being disagreeable.” Yet, you’re going against your own principles (site guidelines), by not moderating those that do take it personal as @stranger_in_a_strange_land, clearly displayed, yourself including. You can also refer to previous reply. Argue points rather then dismiss it as irrational.
By the way, this has all been about information that I presented. How about you present rational/scientific information as to why homosexuality should be treated as an equal?
Something I thought I would add since you like the word bias. Judge Vaughn Walker, who was the judge who overturned prop 8, is openly gay. If that’s not bias, then I don’t know what is.
@DominicX, “The part about homosexuals having more mental health problems, that’s just wonderful. Completely tasteless and tactless. Homosexuals have higher rates of depression and suicide because they are MARGINALIZED BY SOCIETY. They have internal religious conflicts, conflicts with their parents because their parents and family reject them. Homosexual kids are kicked out by their parents, mocked by their peers, no wonder they commit suicide. That passage almost seemed to be mocking the concept of depression and suicide in homosexuals.I could go on and on, but it’s extremely long. If you have something you want me to disprove, go ahead and highlight it for me.”
Every ethnic race was marginalized for centuries, yet, they didn’t have high depression and suicide rates. Take the Jews for example, they have been marginalized by every nation for the last three thousand years, yet, there is no high depression/suicide rate…Why should your community be any different?
@void You chose an excellent name for yourself.
The Family Research Council and NARTH are not sources of valid or empirical information on this or any other issue.
My viewpoint, of course, will have no impact on your persistent, irrational arguments.
I’ve encountered your kind before and I know better than to waste my time with someone whose beliefs prevent them from examining this issue with an open mind.
You have been described as a troll. Your behaviour fits the definition.
Don’t bother to respond to me as I will ignore anything else you have to write because I have determined that nothing you have to say is worth my time. I’m sure others have come to the same conclusion.
@Void You do realize that most of the people in this thread aren’t homosexual, don’t you? Most of us are straight, and yet we still want equality for all people. Hm, who’d’ve thunk it?
BTW, saying you are not interested in rational debate is not name calling, which you resorted to in one of your recent posts. You do have a point about conflict of interest though, and for that reason I will no longer moderate in this thread. Another mod will handle it.
@Dr_Lawrence, ”You chose an excellent name for yourself.”
Why do I sense a condescending tone in this comment? I’ll take it literally even though it’s most likely derogatory, but it wasn’t specified, so it’s up for interpretation. Thank you! You should look into the void, it’s quite perplexing. Void
@Dr_Lawrence, ”The Family Research Council and NARTH are not sources of valid or empirical information on this or any other issue. My viewpoint, of course, will have no impact on your persistent, irrational arguments.”
Look at what you wrote. Your first sentence basically says, “invalid”, without giving me reason why, and you call me irrational? It seems you are the irrational one here. All the information I presented is backed by footnotes to the source which are based on empirical data. If you don’t understand how it’s empirical data, refer to my explanation to @DominicX. I don’t know why you have the title Dr. next to your name. Seems to be a discrepency there.
@Dr_Lawrence, ”I’ve encountered your kind before and I know better than to waste my time with someone whose beliefs prevent them from examining this issue with an open mind.”
My kind? You mean the rational thinkers? My kind who call you out on your ridiculous claims? My kind who use facts to back up words? An open mind? You just went against your own principle with this entire reply. I doubt you would see how, but this entire reply is based on close mindedness. Oh my, the hypocrisy!
@Dr_Lawrence, ”You have been described as a troll. Your behavior fits the definition.”
You have been displaying an irrational, close minded behavior with this one simple reply, and now that you can’t argue evidence, so you call me names? Oh my, the hypocrisy!
@Dr_Lawrence, ”Don’t bother to respond to me as I will ignore anything else you have to write because I have determined that nothing you have to say is worth my time. I’m sure others have come to the same conclusion.”
Actually, I don’t think you will ignore anything I write. You will surely lurk in the background to see my reply. You could of summed up your rant with three words, “invalid” “troll” “ignored”.
@augustlan, “You do realize that most of the people in this thread aren’t homosexual, don’t you? Most of us are straight, and yet we still want equality for all people. Hm, who’d of thunk it?”
If you want equality for all people that’s fine. I was just giving @Vincent_Lloyd the other half of the story that nobody mentioned, that don’t want homosexuality to have equal rights. Then people started arguing with me. I argued back. Just because no one was able to invalidate my points through rationale and science, or show me rationale and science to justify homosexuality to be treated as an equal, does not mean that vulgarity, condescending, mocking, and dismissing remarks are necessary. If you challenge someone, then be prepared to be challenged back.
@augustlan, “BTW, saying you are not interested in rational debate is not name calling, which you resorted to in one of your recent posts. You do have a point about conflict of interest though, and for that reason I will no longer moderate in this thread. Another mod will handle it.”
I would like for you to quote me as to where I was irrational, but if you are no longer moderating this thread, then so be it.
By the way, you mentioned equality for all. Well, why are there gay pride parades? You don’t see any heterosexual parades. Why the separation if you’re equals? Why stand out?
@augustlan Thanks for being able to sorta….uhm….what’s the word sorta help out around here. I didn’t realize that the arguing would go so far….But I’m not sure I mean I’m unsure about my sexuality so who knows I might be gay for all I know, but I also may be Bi. Just a thought ya know?
“Something I thought I would add since you like the word bias. Judge Vaughn Walker, who was the judge who overturned prop 8, is openly gay. If that’s not bias, then I don’t know what is.”
Being openly gay doesn’t necessarily mean that a person is biased, even on issues that might affect that person.
Hypothetically speaking, would you say that an openly straight judge who ruled against a proposition that banned heterosexual marriages was biased?
I’m a married heterosexual, yet I voted against Prop 8, and I support Walker’s ruling. What bias do I have that influenced my vote and my position?
If you don’t think that jumping to the conclusion that all openly gay judges give biased rulings on issues that might affect them is a bias, then I agree with your last statement: you don’t know what a bias is.
There is a segment of the gay parade (what people refer to as “indecent exposure”) that works against the gay community. What does indecent exposure has to do with equality? Why would the organizers approve of having them in the parade?
I think their mind just too old-fashioned. Gay are also people, they just love someone have the same sex as they do. I love this sentence: I’m honestly not really sure about my sexuality. I can’t tell if I’m either Gay or Bi. But I do consider myself straight. I’m not sure about my sexuality either, but i don’t think someone’s sexuality can be annoy to others. I believe same sex marriage should apply on the whole world.
Being gay is not natural. Real Americans ™ always reject unnatural things like eyeglasses, polyester, and air conditioning.
Gay marriage will encourage people to be gay, in the same way that hanging around tall people will make you tall.
Legalizing gay marriage will open the door to all kinds of crazy behavior. People may even wish to marry their pets because a dog has legal standing and can sign a marriage contract.
Straight marriage has been around a long time and hasn’t changed at all; women are still property, blacks still can’t marry whites, and divorce is still illegal.
Straight marriage will be less meaningful if gay marriage were allowed; the sanctity of Britany Spears’ 55-hour just-for-fun marriage would be destroyed.
Straight marriages are valid because they produce children. Gay couples, infertile couples, and old people shouldn’t be allowed to marry because our orphanages aren’t full yet, and the world needs more children.
Obviously gay parents will raise gay children, since straight parents only raise straight children.
Gay marriage is not supported by religion. In a theocracy like ours, the values of one religion are imposed on the entire country. That’s why we have only one religion in America.
Children can never succeed without a male and a female role model at home. That’s why we as a society expressly forbid single parents to raise children.
Gay marriage will change the foundation of society; we could never adapt to new social norms. Just like we haven’t adapted to cars, the service-sector economy, or longer life spans.