What do you need from someone close to you, and why do you need it?

Wow…hate to hear those kind of stories, but certainly understand. The people that love you the most, can hurt the most. Hopefully, in time, you will get that apology! Time is a great healer.

I need to have my girlfriend in my arms. It’s where I want her to be. She feels the same (loves being in my arms). It’s comforting/calms me down and makes me feel close to her.

I need my family to come visit me next. I have traveled back to the east coast to see my family 4 times in the past year. No, it doesn’t seem like a lot, but they haven’t traveled to see me at all and I don’t think I can really afford another trip anytime in the near future.

I also need my husband to come home because I miss him and could really use a hug from him.

@RANGIEBABY Have you told your sister you require an apology from her?

@Seaofclouds Consider yourself hugged by all of your fluther friends. You make me teary eyed. Where is your husband, in the service?
Maybe your family will surprise you with the next visit. Have you asked them to come and do you have a place for them to stay?

@Dr_Lawrence Oh yes, several times. She just tells me to “burn in Hell” and hangs up. I even tried to reverse everything and apologize to her for whatever, it still didn’t work. She is not a happy person and very jealous and critical of many people. I also told her i forgive her, that did not work either.
Now I guess I am done.

@RANGIEBABY Thank you. He is in Iraq and has been there for over 7 months now. I’ve talked to my family about coming here before, they just constantly have an excuse not to come. The most recent excuses were because of the weather (back in March because they didn’t want to travel in the snow) and then because they didn’t have vacation time (because they used their vacation time to go visit friends in Florida). I can understand not wanting to travel in the snow. I did it and it wasn’t any fun driving through what felt like a blizzard, but I did it so that we could see them. If they come, we do have room for them to stay right here in the house with us, so they won’t have to get a hotel room unless they preferred to do that.

@Seaofclouds You might have to be very direct with them. Present them with a situation of good weather, they have vacation time, they have a place to stay, then ask them if they would come then? Hold their feet to the fire until you get a satisfactory answer, I think you certainly deserve that.
XO from your husband.

@RANGIEBABY Thanks. I have spoken too them directly about it and they know they are welcome any time of the year and that they have a place. They just look at it as I was the one that moved away, so I should be the one to come back and visit. My mom and I had a long talk about it when I was there a few weeks ago and she said “maybe next summer”. I’m sure she’ll be asking me when I’ll be there again before then though.

@Seaofclouds Perhaps they can pay your fare to visit next time. I would tell they you just can’t afford it.

@RANGIEBABY That’s an idea. Perhaps I’ll ask about that when my mom starts asking me to come visit around Christmas.

Same as @jjmah . I need my lady J in my arms, her warmth, the scent of her hair, her delightful laugh.

I need my partner to be healthy.

Hm that’s good question. But what do you mean by “someone close to you?” If you mean family member. I need my father to go to the past and raise me right, not abuse my mother, not traumatize my sisters and mom, not leave the family for some whore! God…so much I need from my father…. And if you mean by girlfriend/boyfriend I would need comfort,love from him or her,and other things but I can’t really think of it right now.

I need my family to always be there for me when times are difficult. And i need my beautiful partner to continue to rock my world…i’ve never been happier and don’t ever want that to change.

I need empathy and people to listen.

@RANGIEBABY
I can empathize with your pain.
My situation will not be resolved and I have accepted it and moved on.

I need my partner committed to continuously improving his health because I want him to live past 50, the age most men in his business conk out. I want him to find the joy in life as a sober person and to really feel it exceeds anything else he could experience otherwise.

@philosopher Thank you so much, but the pain is absolutely going away, bit by bit each day. Unfortunately for her, if and when she might get around to apologizing it may be too late. Sometimes an apology is for the wrong reason and it doesn’t hold water with me. I am not angry or hateful toward her, I just don’t understand how someone can live with something like that hanging over their head, and still feel good about themselves. I say with “hands in air while saying Oh Well”