Is losing it with your ex a good idea?

I’m just going to say you should not let your families decide your future. If the two of you, independent of your families, have decided you have no future together, don’t stay in contact with each other. Otherwise you will waste youthful years wishing for something that will not be. Don’t do that.

Giving up that one special element of yourself is a one and only one time event. That choice is yours and it will stay with you like no other time with him or one else. It is a lasting memory and a legacy of your sexual future that will always be there and never be thought of the same as any other time with a man. It may very well be a great memory to have with a man you may never be able to have a future with but you will always have that and on the other hand if you truly expect you will not be with him I can only ask how you will feel if you want/wanted your first to be with the man you may marry some day and you may wish you had waited.

You should not live your lives to please others, nothing positive comes from doing this.

Personally i wouldn’t get back together, the issues that separated you in the first place are still there, why risk putting yourselves through the pain again of a possible break up.

Women release a chemical in their brain that makes them feel more love towards men when they have sex with them, so if you already have or had feelings for this guy its prob not a wise move. Once its done its done and if he has no interest in anything more after, your only going to feel hurt and probably wish you had waited for someone you have a real connection with

It’s too special to give up to a person who is not willing to commit to you.

Two words…

Booty call.

Wow seems like your family is the one that is taking control. I think you should settle things with them since apparently they are keeping you two away from each other. But still I hope you two get along with each other. I mean it not really a good thing to me to have mixed feelings with the person you love. It shows that you’re unsure that you REALLY LOVE him. But since you’re attached to him your mind is probably thinking that you’re in love when you might not be…Who knows? But I hope things get better for you and I hope this helped kinda.

This would be a very bad idea especially if you still have feelings for him. The only thing on the road ahead will be heartbreak. Unless you two plan to defy your familaies and be together in the long run, this is a bad idea.

Bad Idea, let him find someone else to use… keep your dignity intact & let this guy drift off into memories, you deserve better, besides better to have fond memories than constant nightmares….. :-/

Please think about what you would be losing. It isn’t just your virginity. It’s dreams and hopes. It may even be a bit of self respect. Wait for the right person. Don’t settle for someone you already know isn’t the right one.

Look what happened to Romeo and Juliette.

If you do decide to get together—be very careful how you fake your death. Maybe you should get a doctor’s certificate before you do anything rash.

Family disapproval is a very serious thing. Especially when you are still living at home, but even after. While this guy may be the one you have your heart set on—is it worth all the trouble it will cause you both in other ways? I don’t know the answer to that, but it is a question I think you should consider.

So let me see if I understand this correctly. He wants to nail you, but doesn’t want to commit to you. More than that, he wants to take your virginity and then walk away from you like it were nothing more than scratching an itch.
You, on the other hand, could be persuaded to be in a reationship with relative ease, though you state ambivalence.
Hmmmm.
Tough call.

Don’t do it… You will regret it . What a fond memory that would be…

And let’s add in, what if you end up pregnant? (I’m assuming that you are a female, based upon your name.) Not only would you have to deal with that situation, but it’s not going to help with the family feud.

@fallengrace “Women release a chemical in their brain that makes them feel more love towards men when they have sex with them” – link?

Nahhhhhh….
find someone else

whatever makes your nostrils flare….that’s my philosophy.

Did anyone else read this title and think it was talking about having an argument?

Yes, that is what I thought too. :-)

When you say lose it, you imply that your relationship is not worth the effort it takes to become mentally and spiritually connected, and you are just interested in lust. I don’t condone that type of relationship, but if that’s what you want, who am I to say it’s wrong?

Personally, I wouldn’t place such a low value on myself.

If you want more than you’re going to get—don’t do it.

On the other hand, I didn’t lose my virginity to her, but I did have sex with an old girlfriend years after the fact (we didn’t while we were dating) and I truthfully think we’re closer for that experience.

Everyone places different values on sex. Think it through and make sure you know what you’re getting into (or not getting into) and how that lines up with your expectations and hopes. If they’re not in tandem—be careful.

DEFINITELY not a good idea, considering the situation with your families, the fact he doesn’t want a commited relationship, and the way you feel!

There are loads of links just search oxytocin, one paragraph from a site I found “A man can be okay with just having sex, but a woman for the most part is not. When you have sex with someone, women release a high level of a hormone called oxytocin. It is a chemical bond. Women, when they breastfeed feel this bond with the baby, because it’s also released at that time”.

Do what you want, you will anyway. Family, friends, strangers can all give you advice, but I bet you already know in your heart what you’re going to do.