(To the guys, girls can answer too so I can get why you think they do this.) Why do guys act like jerks to girls around their friends?

I dont know… I dont do it. I would guess its some bullshit macho thing though….

I think there just trying to show off by trying to be tough and act like they’re in charge.

I actually found the opposite to be true in my little group. If a girl was hanging around, the guys felt a need to clean up their language, stand a little straighter, and open doors. One of the girls got ticked off about it and demanded to know why they refused to swear around her (though she used far more colourful language than I can quote her on.) Sorry for the off-topic anecdote, but I found it strange and slightly related.

I don’t and have never treated any female disrespectfully in front of my friends. Guys who do this are complete knobs, who most probably were not loved enough by their mothers.

I haven’t seen it happen since high school.

I do get what you mean. Is is maybe like a alpha-male, “this lady is mine” kinda thing?

I’m not sure if this counts or not, but I had a guy friend form work that invited me to hang out with his friends mostly guys for a karaoke night thing they had every weekend. One time, I went to the bathroom, came back, and he had gone over to another table with his guy friend. I was pissed and I left. I was never really sure why he did it. I just chalked it up to him being a dude.

I’m just a jerk all around, but in a tension/stress relieving way. I just do it so everyone can get a laugh.

I know I’m off topic here but it is a social Q so I will say this. I have never done this to any girl I was seeing. If anything I blew my friends off for my girl. Not every guy behaves the same way.

Not all men behave like jerks. Honestly for me, if a man were to act like an ass around his friends when I was around, that’s a huge red flag! Talk about a deal breaker. I like a man that’s comfortable and would be proud to show me off.

GENERALIZATIONS FTW

I would say most of the guys act like jackasses when they are around their friends, because they want to make an impression of either them looking very cool and tough! which doesn’t always work, since some girls , like me always want my boy to be as he is with his friends and as he is with me not changing according to whom he is hanging out with.

I never did that. Even in high school. I was lucky to always have a gf.

I believe it is a deeply hidden trait that is left over from our evolutionary past. We can see other animals do the same.
I have hummingbird feeders outside my window with many hummers visiting per hour. When a single hummer is feeding, he flies directly to the feeder, eats, and leaves. If a female is nearby, the males start to do a swooping maneuver back and forth, up and down around the female as if showing off his flying skill.
Apparently the swooping works. If females ignored the “swooping” trait and mated with the quiet males, eventually males would eat quietly.

It’s basic psychology. Men don’t like to look weak around friends, they like to look bigger. So they pick on smaller people to look bigger.

Because guys like that are total douchebags.

@daytonamisticrip

A bit of a sweeping statement there, NOT all men act like this, some of us know how to behave around the ladies….
Still I guess BOYS are still BOYS, very childish…..... In some cases…...

I don’t know many guys who act this way. Like @gypsywench if I found myself in this situation, I’d be moving along swiftly.
This kind of behaviour suggests a lack of maturity and self confidence.

@stardust Yeah I agree. Maybe some guys just have dis respect to show that they’re dominate to me. But it shows childish choices to make on a young lady.

Hmmmmm…yeah.. I dunno. I have known guys like that, and I would never have a guy life that in my life. There is no excuse for being disrespectful.

As the XX chromosome of the species you have a lot of control over the situation. Simply don’t date jerks. Go out with the nice, polite, quiet guys. Spread the word your friends.
Eventually the jerks will figure it out or die off without reproducing.

immature.

They think it makes them look cool. They also love to be the center of attention. Some just look exactly like that a jackass.

You’re hanging out with the wrong guys.

i’m right…everyone else is wrong. loll

I would have to assume that the male in question wanted me to no longer speak to him, and I would oblige him.