Come on people, what is the BEST way to get over a breakup?

Get in the car and D R I V E ! Stop next to an empty field, and get out and pick wildflowers even if they’re just weeds. Take them home to your mother, and give them to her like you were five years old. Then shut yourself in your room and cry.

After you finish crying, make an escape plan. A serious one.

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Just envision getting a great new job and how proud you will be and think of all the cool new people you will meet including new hot single dudes.

Seriously? Go volunteer. That helped me a lot.

@hawaii_jake 1000 GA!

Just sit around and wallow in your problems. Or you could leave the house and find some shit to do. I don’t know what you like. You should be able to figure out what keeps your mind busy. Try finger painting.

Seriously, you finished college and you can’t figure out that a few lines of text won’t make you miss him less. There is no Magic bullet. Leave the fucking house and move on. I bet he has.

@hawaii_jake I agree with everything, except driving. That’s how you get yourself killed.

I’ve always seemed to get over breakups pretty well by creating some reason to be permanently angry at my ex. Sort of like a grudge.

Wow I am not looking for people to be rude, “johnpowell”. Please move on to a question that encourages your odd sense of rude sarcasm. This is posted in the “general” section NOT the social section.

Happens to everybody, a breakup or more—it’s one of life’s potholes. You just drive through it, enjoy the smooth road for a while, then see what comes. Sounds like a cliche, but it’s true.

You just have to find a way to keep yourself busy. Put yourself out there and make new friends and give yourself time to get over the break up. There isn’t an easy fix to it and it may take some time before you are actually over it. Keeping busy will help keep you from thinking about it all the time.

It sounds like it’s less about the breakup than the fact that you feel isolated now that you’ve moved back home. The most productive thing you could do right now is really throw yourself into looking for a job, especially one out of your hometown. For the time being, treat the job hunt as your job- get up on a set schedule, and have a dedicated place to work. Compile a list of contacts who may know people in your field; call them and ask for contact information or introductions to potential employers. Write down things you need to do, like updating your resume, and cross them off as you complete them. Having structure and a goal won’t make you feel better about the breakup, but you will be actively working to improve your life.

Whenever I need to distract my mind, I get lost in a good book. It’s a relief sometimes to get caught up in someone else’s world for a while. Try to avoid romances, of course! Spend time with your friends (without their SO’s around), work on a personal project.

The best way for me to get over my long-term break up is to think of all the reasons of why you are not together. What are the things he couldn’t do for you that someone else can? One thing is the person you will spend the rest of your life with won’t break your heart!

Like other people mentioned on this keep yourself busy. Do things you love to do and hang out with your best friend and family members. It’s nice to know you have some people to talk to especially your best friend.

Trust me things will get better, even if it never seems like it will. Time will tell.

I agree with keeping busy. It really is hell being alone, trying not to let your mind go and go. Make sure at some point that you do just let it all in and have a wallerin’ bawl session. Then get out and do ANYTHING but don’t just sit at home.
I’m sorry

If your attractive…don’t worry about it..the guys will come to you. A pretty girl should never be lonely, as well as an attractive guy. Now if your ugly like me, that’s a different story. Live with it.

I think everyone should have some breakup during some hard time. It’s common and do not be too gloom about that. All you need to do is to find a job you like. Maybe you should find a job out of your hometown. Try to have fun with your new friends in new job. Do some thing you always want to do, things will get much better. Have a try. :-)

Sometimes it’s hard to move on. Do things that make you happy. Take the time to fall back in love with yourself first. Then everything should fall back into place. Good luck :)

Be active. Get out and distract your mind from him. It’s easier said than done, but what do you have to lose right? Also, I lost my friend to a car accident almost eight months ago. I loved him romantically like in the same way you liked your boyfriend. I still haven’t even come close to getting over it. It’s like downloading something online. I’m stuck at 4% and I still need to finish 96%. Some times, and I know this may sound harsh, you just have to suck it up and smile. If you’re feeling like crap..smile and laugh everything off. When my friend died I could not take anything seriously. I still can’t to a certain extent. How I coped was making everything one big joke. Don’t do that though! Just remember that it’s on his head and he lost out.

#1 cry your face off.
#2 start keeping a journal of your feelings and activities. It’s very important to do this daily.
#3 exercise, exercise and exercise. Run/walk him out of your life. Your body will be toned too. Record your mileage in the journal.
#4 keep looking for a job.

The above worked for me especially the journal. That helps when going through the next breakup. It records that you can get through it.

By getting your ass out there and living well!