NSFW - Do men usually fantasize about something else during sex?
Woah, my first NSFW question.
How common is it for men to think about other people that are not in bed with them? Is that something that mostly happens when they are not satisfied with the sex – or is it just the nature of things for certain people?
What about women? I know that if I’m thinking about anything other than what is going on at that very moment, that it’s usually because I’m not that into it. Otherwise I find it hard to focus on anything else. Ladies, do you feel the same way?
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Uhhhh, way to incriminate people…..lol. I have thought about other women while with another woman in the past, but that was because I wasn’t into the woman I was having sex with and just wanted sex…..so yeah…....
@Blackberry sorry.. haha. I know that lots of people do it, but it made me wonder why. If it’s just natural for some people to crave additional stimulation, or if what is going on isn’t particularly interesting.
I guess it’s a stereotype that isn’t talked about very often. Aside from hearing that guys do it. Which isn’t especially informative.
It’s a matter of connecting with people. If it’s just physical I’d say you need way more to keep it interesting.
I usually am trying to focus on getting to be the thirteenth person in the world to understand Einstein’s Theory of Relativity.
But no, not during the deed do i think of others.
No way. If I’m thinking about someone else then something is wrong.
Nope. I only ever sleep with people to whom I’m fully committed, so I am focused on that person and what we’re doing.
Depends on the person. If its a girl that its been goin on for a while, and shes not that good in bed, then maybe. But if it’s a real good lookin girl, great body, no way, all eyes on her.
Never !!!!! Well maybe once. 99% of the time I am thinking about what’s going on with the prime objective of a orgasm.
I am always present.and I wouldn’t want to be anywhere else :)
@ucme For some reason I thought it was going to be Satisfaction – Stones.. that song better not start playing in my head pre, mid, or post coitus..EVER..or you will be receiving hate mail.
Personally my attention span is virtually non-existent when i’m in that much pleasure, If i get bored a boob grab or a ass smack will set me right back on track. However, in the case mentioned by @wgallios where you’ve been in a relationship forEVER.. maybe things are bumpy, maybe it’s make-up sex (but the bad kind, when your still kinda pissed).. in that situation yes I have zoned way out…but it still kinda feels like cheating a little to me.
@TheOnlyNeffie It’s my answer to your question. Thinking of other people during sex is not specific to men, imo. Nor is it a problem whatsoever. I have a rich imagination and I employ it during sex, I think of my partner and myself with others..if it’s something really good, I tell him about it as I’m imagining it, it’s all good with us in bed.
@Simone_De_Beauvoir of course it isn’t specific to men. I was just asking specifically about men. ;)
You’ll notice in my details that I also addressed the ladies, and of course anyone and everyone else that has an opinion or a story to share is more than welcome to chime in. Sorry if I wasn’t clear about that.
@TheOnlyNeffie No, I’m sorry – I am notoriously bad at reading all of the details.
I don’t know if I’d call it fantasizing, but if I want to last longer I think about Strom Thurmond. If that isn’t enough to calm me down, I think of him sitting on the can. Usually that totally does the trick, but if the sex is great enough, I need to conjure up the final image: Strom Thurmond taking a shit while eating a bucket of KFC. That has never failed me, but focusing too hard has the potential to render me incapable of sex for a little while.
LOL. I read this and had to read the responses. I asked my husband that once.He thought it amusing. He said it never takes a guy much to get excited so the answer was no. There is no need to fantasize. He said when he was single that all he needed was the girl in front of him to say yes. If he had to fantasize about someone else then the person he was with than he had no desire to have sex with her period. He said guys are pretty simple. Naked girl in front and all sytems are go or no go. Which is why most guys would be happy to skip over the fore play. Non is required. :))
LOLL.. @ucme don’t buy a Christmas turkey!
@Pandora Skip foreplay? But I like squeezing and licking and all that other good stuff.
squeezing and licking and slapping.. oh my
I’m female and I get more turned on by looking at my partner in the eyes or kissing while having intercourse. I’ve fantasized once about someone else in place of my partner and that’s because I felt uncomfortable (new partner/too soon) and was worried for all his efforts I wouldn’t be able to get off and thus embarass him when he seemed to be having a great time.
Guys have told me they fantasize about being with other women other than the one in bed with them a lot but not for any particular reason. I don’t like the idea but I’m not about to crawl into a man’s brain and boot kick him while we’re doing to the deed either.
Maybe someone else. I don’t think something else; their minds usually seem to be on the task at hand.
I certainly can’t speak for other men, but this one doesn’t. When I am engaged in sex with a partner, I am fully engaged in my partner. Fantasizing is for my affairs with Rosy Palm and her five little sisters.
@Dewey420 Ahh you’re just jeaous coz you can’t keep up ;¬}
@BoBo1946 Gobble gobble, the backing vocals as a prelude to the nookie XD
I think it makes for more pleasure, for both people.. :-/ keeps the pecker up!!!
I think more men are guilty of distracting themselves for reasons other than that the sex isn’t that good.
@sleepdoc I agree, most generally speaking, sex + man = good. For women it’s probably something more like sex + woman *looks *compassion + Humor(squared) / size*charm = not bad..
I don’t. I’m too busy concentrating on my partner.
Sure, if the woman is ugly or homely with a great body, you make sure all the lights are out and imagine the good-looking woman you want to be with, or if the sex is boring or sub-par, your mind can go anywhere, you just hope she hits the big “O” and get tired so you can get away.
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