I don't want to be with her anymore but not sure about some things. Help Please?

If you’re not into her and you’re not enjoying the relationship—I’d say that’s a pretty good reason to get out.

Where did you live before you moved in with her? Are there friends you can stay with till you find your footing?

So essentially you wnt to know if it’s OK to stay even though you’ve been wanting to leave for awhile just to take advantage of what she can provide you? I don’t mean to sound too harsh, here, but that would make you a user and a mooch, in my eyes.

Well, there’s that 6 month chemical wearing off a bit early. If you have nothing else but that heady physical attraction for each other, just go ahead and pack. Relationships built only on that are basically doomed. I noticed that you didn’t mention any other firm, rock solid attributes of the relationship, so I assume there are none. Right? Otherwise surely you would have said something about them. So, no deep abiding mutual respect ot affection, just a physical thing that died its predestined, natural death.
You already resent being bossed around. She thinks that since you’re not working and just baxically sponging off her that she has a righ to boss you. I sort of concur since you’re not even contributing affection to the “relationship” at this point.
And if you’re the one who lost your job, why would you feel that she wants you around for money? Do you mean she needs someone to spend her money on?
Pack your shit and get out.

Be honest with her and tell her that you don’t want to be with her anymore. Did the two of you sign a lease together when you moved in? If you are both on the lease, you need to talk to your landlord about getting off the lease. If you leave and your name is on the lease, you can be held responsible for anything she does to your place.

If you aren’t on the lease, find somewhere to go while you get on your feel. Ask friends and family for help. You could talk to her and see if she would be okay with still living together without being in a relationship if you don’t have somewhere else to go. If you aren’t into her and the relationship anymore, you need to tell her that and end the relationship.

If you want to break up then tell her. If you’d like to stay until you can afford to move out on your own then bring it up because she might not be prepared to take the expenses all on her right away either. You mentioned you lost your job recently and she’s been on your case- insecurity over money brings out the panic and defensiveness in people, love them or not. Why don’t you wait until you’re settled in a new job and re evaluate how you feel about her then?

You shouldn’t stay with someone if you don’t want to be with them. Since you two were friends before the relationship maybe she’ll understand that you think the two of you aren’t working out. And if she’s your friend afterward I’m oretty sure she’ll let you stay there til you get a job and a place to live/stay.

Free spirited personalities and control type personalities doesn’t produce good chemistry. Move on. Be very caring in telling her it’s over.

You should leave now. FInd a firne you can sleep on their couch.

It would be wrong to use her that way.

It is wrong to continue to live with her when your feelings have changed.

Do not live with her just because you need a place to stay and then break up with her afterwards… it’s called using. I don’t think you were in love with her in the first place… because you fell in and out so quickly…. thats not love, I think it was just interesting at the beginning and now things are not so perfect and you ‘don’t love her anymore’ doesnt happen so quickly. You may have had strong feelings but I doubt you were in love with her. She may be looking out for you but if she’s the same as some of the girls I know they act differently until 3–4 months in and they change into a bitch…. thats their true colors and they only act nice to get a boyfriend…. and I think it was really soon to move in with her. This is what you should probably do, but this is only my advice… Either move out to a friends house or your parents… but I understand you are in a tight position and If she is the type I’m thinking of then you don’t want to just be thrown out with no where to go… so you may have to just find a job as soon as possible! and get out! because if it keeps going on and off she likes the chase and the drama… and she’s most likely a bitch. But then I could be wrong, you know her better, she could just be nice and trying to look out for you in her own way.
Good luck :)

@ryan9305 Looking forward to your opinion on the answers.

Welcome to Fluther!

Thank you for the great answers and advice. Just to answer some of the questions you guys asked during your answers. As far as aving friends to move in with, I have no friends anymore, I lost them all when i started dating her because either she didn’t like them or they wanted her as well and when I started dating her they got extremely jealous of me and stopped talking to me.
As far as my family goes I don’t have any family that lives within 80 miles of where I am at.
@Trillian We don’t even have that physical attraction anymore, well she has it for me but I can’t even seem to find within myself to be attracted to her. I don’t know why. She used to be beautiful to me and now she doesn’t even stand out of the crowd.

@Shoebox You are almost exactly right except she became that “bitch” after a month and a half. And she is the type that she will just throw me out with nowhere to go.
Once again, thank you for the great ansers people. Any more input willl be appreciated too.

Sounds like you have been in an emotionally abusive relationship. Being in a relationship doesn’t give anyone the right to control their partner’s behavior—including who else is a part of their life.

Get in touch with your old friends. Tell them you were wrong and deceived and that you’re sorry. See if they’ll take you in—or at least offer you support.