Why do some find Asian women irresistible?

I’m not sure….because you like something about them. The way they look or talk or one of their features? That’s it, right? The same reason I love Jews but can’t put my finger on why? It’s just in us!

But why not pursue your fethish if that is what makes you happiest? It is no more odd than someone only liking blondes.

Because Asian women (like many non-white women) have been exoticized to a point that some men in our culture find them attractive simply for ‘being Asian’ – they transfer onto real people fantasies they have about a race (and in this case, their obedience, mystery, ways of sex – all illusory in so many cases) and, imo, it’s quite the superficial way to be.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir thanks for the answer. I am generally very resistant to social norms, fads and trends. I find Asian women physically attractive above all else. Not because I’m told so, but because of their features personally.

The factors you brought to light are definitely there however. But they should hold true for other ethnicities – in my case they don’t, at least not as noticeably.

I tried to step back and see how I am and act, and this is what I observed. I was in a relationship with someone Asian for a year and a half, I still consider it my best relationship although short (in terms of enjoyment, stability etc). But even without that experience – from scratch, I’m much more likely to stare at a pretty Asian with sexual intension, than anyone else. I’ll still consider them cute and want to hang out, but my sexual intent is nowhere near as potent.

I’m still working on it though, hence the question – feel free to poke any holes in my thinking :)

Is your fascination with Asian asian women (I mean someone raised in Asia, or barely first generation American Asian, and thus raised with values and demeanor of the culture) and/or fully westernized asian women, maybe 3rd or 4th generation ones?

@JilltheTooth let’s just say I know if you’re half Asian, or even a quarter (if the phenotype got expressed), and this automatically makes you more attractive. I can spot them…

What is the funniest is that I had no clue of my attraction. Or awareness of it.

@phoebusg I think it’s okay that you find Asian women attractive – just don’t let that override individuals themselves…be with someone (Asian or non-Asian) because of who they are, not because they belong to a group you have a thing for. I have a thing for muscular black men (went to a mostly black high school, had a lot of fun with the step team…it stems from there) but I don’t assume anything about each young black guy I meet – you simply can’t let your preferences trap you into generalizations.

I think that is all in the eye of the beholder and the woman. IMO any woman, age, race, shape or size can be immensely attractive… a little attention to detail is all it takes. ;)

@Simone_De_Beauvoir agreed, and part of that is in the bottom part of the the question description. I’m simply on a quest to understanding what lies there. Maybe in terms of beauty itself but that’s another question. I run this equation for each and every person: Looks + fitness + personality + stability=0 (balance). But nice to see another that does not simply succumb to phenomena.

While this isn’t the same question, you may find the conversation there interesting. Link.

@laureth I really appreciate the link. Already went through that thread – but it’s good for reference and our readers :)

The first time I realized how exquisitely beautiful Asian women’s faces are was I visited China in the ‘90s. Once back in these homogenized United States, I was able to better appreciate the differences and beauty of women of all different nationalities including Afro-American, Latin, Italian and, forever, Asian.

@Austinlad thanks, great answer. Would love an elaboration is one is possible at a later time :)

They look exotic to people aren’t from asian places. We always want to explore the unknown.

@Blackberry I question that because I became more attracted once I explored this said unknown. My appetite increased with exposure, or with availability. Because exposure alone leads to attraction through repetition especially. I don’t feel the same way about other exotic mixes. Although there I agree due to group norm pressures – ex. mulatto women.

I’m thinking more in terms of attraction. Biological source, with a trace of environmental influences (which is where most of the answers stem from).

Because they are inscrutable.

I think the real question is “Why are some people consistently attracted to the same physical traits?” My son has gone through a number of abundantly curly-haired redheads, and I doubt that he has even noticed a pattern. Me, I find that there’s a certain type of Jewish man that just affects me like catnip.

And I think the answer is “Nobody knows.” Nobody even knows why some people detest Brussels sprouts and others adore them, never mind anything as complicated as why certain physical traits turn us on.

I’d say never mind looking for generalizations and explanations. The answer is not in them. It’s in you. Just go with what you fancy.

I think @Jeruba has nailed it on the head. People just make much more of a big deal about the ‘Asian fetish’ thing than any other phenotype.

People’s tastes are inscrutable. The reasons people like one thing and dislike something else are probably so vast and all tangled up with a lifetime’s worth of experience. Positive connotations, fond remembrances, good and bad experiences, all these and more can play a part in shaping one’s tastes and who they find attractive.

Personally, I was never really sexually attracted to Asian girls until this year. Not that I have any issues with ethnicity or skin color or anything, I don’t work like that, it just kind of happened like that. No girl who happened to be Asian had ever expressed any interest in me, so it just kind of never came up. But then I had this really amazing experience earlier this year (though it was only a brief fling), and it’s opened up my eyes. Because of this experience (and because now I have very positive connotations), I find I am noticing Asian girls more and finding them attractive.

However, I could say the same thing about Caucasian girls. A lot of the girls I find attractive, it’s because I’ve had a really positive experience or loved someone of a similar phenotype. I have a total thing for redheads, that’s because of Jan. Tall, lanky brunettes, because of Jen. Light-eyed girls with dark hair, I think that’s because my first crush was Linda Carter as Wonder Woman.

Here’s what several non Asian men and Asian female friends have told me their non Asian male lovers have mentioned as being a focus of attraction:

Soft bodies even though thin in general which many deem feminine versus a hard worked out sinewy thin body.

Childlike dolllike faces and petite bodies.

Breasts, lots of people like the look of a more rounded, higher sitting breast they think more Asian women have.

Hair if it’s kept the natural color and texture versus bleached, streaked, overprocessed hair.

Feminine dress. So many tell me they love how their girls dress or the girls are surprised the non Asian guys make so much of a fuss over how the girls pay attention to their shoes, dressing and grooming.

@Neizvestnaya, yes—and people who are not especially attracted to Asian women would give a different list. That’s why it appears to be a matter of individual taste and preference and not the greater innate desirability of one set of traits over another.

There’s also the idea that if everyone has a set of traits that they particularly like, there’s going to be less fighting for mates and more exclusivity. The guy who likes curly redheads and the guy who likes Asian women are unlikely to get into a bar brawl over a woman they both want, for example. They each go home with the one they like best and remain friends, which is good for the community.

I can’t answer about Asian women, but I am extremely attracted to Asian males. It’s really because they tend to have the traits I like in men (strong jaw, good eyebrows, etc). Asian women could just have many physical traits that are widely appealing or possibly exotic.

@Neizvestnaya thank you very much for the answer :)

@Jeruba and @MissAnthrope some very good points made.
I think everything complex can be understood, and it is more ‘romantic’ once it is – or when it’s better understood – than when it’s not. You’re right that there’s a lot of dimensions to the question, hence the question and curiosity. I’d like to explore all of them. Some of them direct us to what is beauty, what is beauty in another human being – and there’s some evidence that such a thing exists among observers rather than between. In the same fashion, what is it in Asians that follows those principles, biological, pre-dispositional but also environmental.

@laureth I have a close friend who doesn’t like Asians at all. He’s my wing-man – hehe :) Thank you for the answer.