How can I keep from getting tired of my boyfriend?

You have to learn to be happy doing the simplist things. If you want to spice things up you can always get up off your bumms and try new things. You are also treating love like it is only an emotion; since you have already fallen for him you need to treat love as if it is an ability. Once you can do that it will be easy for you to not get bored.

How old are you?

18

@yeaiknow, thanks for the rudeness but love wasnt what i was asking about. plenty of that.

I wasnt being rude. I just mean you have to make sure you treat it as an ability. Then you wont be bored.

an ability? like running or laughing? lol im serious

At 18, why don’t you date lots of guys? You are still young, and if you are bored, I would suggest you haven’t found the right one yet.

no love starts as an emotion and turns into an ability. the ability to love is what keeps two people together.
or maybe skfinkel is right and you havnt found the right person because i am in love with someone and we are able to sit and do nothing, talk about nothing and have never become bored with eachother

not bored in the sense of sitting around! i love doing that. we do that all the time. i just mean i guess with him. ha. trust me im a simple southern girl, im not high maintenence.

If you get bored of him – that’s probably not a good sign. Maybe try to do some things to spice up the relationship? Go out on fun dates, plan surprises for each other, etc. The same old routine can sometimes get really monotonous and that’s no good.

i guess all i mean to say is if you think he worth spending the rest of your life with then you have to work at not being bored.

I agree with @chels

Surprises always work :)

Perhaps you are expecting him to make you happy. That never works. Spend some time making yourself a better person. Your expectations will grow and maybe others won’t be easily bored by you.

nobody is bored by me thats not the problem here

@ashsaintsfan If that’s all you took from my comment, then perhaps you are not able to make such an observation. Why do you believe your boyfriend to be boring…or being with him is boring?

If you don’t give us the entire picture, then how can we help you?

By the way, welcome to fluther.

“nobody is bored by me thats not the problem here” Wait here while I go get @iamthemob.

There is a book called The Art and Practice of Loving

@Trillian…what? and @MissA…i appreciate your help and i am getting it but youre assuming things like that and its obnoxious. i need relevant answers please.

@jazmina…im going to look into that. thanks.

@ashsaintsfan As I said, “Why do you believe your boyfriend to be boring…or being with him is boring?

If you don’t give us the entire picture, then how can we help you?

its just the way i get after ive been with somebody, and i need someone who can relate.

@ashsaintsfan So, do you view the problem as being with you or your boyfriend?

It sounds as if once you are familiar with a boyfriend, then ‘boredom’ sets in. Your choice then is to find out why you’re like that…or, keep getting new boyfriends.

@ashsaintsfan Maybe you shouldn’t be thinking about settling down then. Maybe you need to figure out who you are before you can really have a successful relationship. If you’re bored of him, you need to do something about it. Either spice things up – or leave until you’re truly ready to commit.

I’m trying to find out why i am like that lol and i know it’s me. I really cant help it. I do it every time. This happens with every guy.

Now that you’ve admitted that…you can attempt to find out why. I’m not getting through to you, but there’s a flutherer named Dr. Lawrence who would gladly attempt to help you. I applaud you for seeking help because this could ruin your chances of happiness in life.

@MissA You are getting through and thank you for helping

Considering your comment about “getting a new one” in your dancing question about your boyfriend if he had a problem with you being a dancer, it seems like it might be a commitment issue for you. Perhaps you are finding things subconsciously to pick at the relationship because you have a problem with commitment that you aren’t aware of.

If not that, it could be that he just isn’t the right guy for you. If you are bored with him, it means that he doesn’t stimulate you in some way. Perhaps it’s because one of you is a home body while the other is a social butterfly, maybe it’s on an intellectual level. Are there times that you aren’t bored with him? If so, what are you doing at those times? What are you doing when you feel like you are bored with him?

I think (think not know) it’s that you’re not yet mature enough to handle a long term relationship. I dont mean that in the negative, derogatory way that the word “immature” is usually taken in, either.

When I was 18 I was the same way – the world was my playground, I didn’t want to “settle down” with someone (that whole concept seemed boring to me) and it seemed like no one was ever good enough for me (like you, I’d find myself “bored” in situations I shouldn’t be). I didn’t know myself or where I belong and I barely had a chance to see the world with my own eyes — I hadn’t been to college at that point or off “on my own” and everything had been down for me at that point. Marriage and commitment to me meant a lot less back then than it does to me now.

You may love this guy with all of your heart but I dont think the timing is right – if it were, I dont think you’d even be able to utter the words “I’m bored”.

@Disc2021 and @Seaofclouds, youve both seriously hit the nail on the head :)

@ashsaintsfan I’m glad you took my input the way that it was intended =D. Whatever you decide to do, I wish you luck. Love really is an incredible wonder of the world.

i really have changed my outlook these past few days:) thanks guys, especially @MissA and @Disc2021 :)

Thanks @ashsaintsfan . I wish you the absolute best.

Here i have the most simple way, just show your love to him, that’s enough, if he loves you too, he can feeles that, and if he doesn’t, let go of him and find someone else that worth you love.