How come everyone makes a big deal out of a white person and a black person dating?

Everyone? Really?

Maybe it has to do with where you live. Interracial dating has gone pretty mainstream these days. Different story in the 60s

I agree with @JilltheTooth, it could just be because of where you live. I rarely hear anyone talk about a couple because of their race these days, but I’m sure there are some people out there that still have a problem with it. I’m glad I don’t live near them.

Goodness alone knows. Some people don’t like to mind their own business and like to force their (often warped) ideas of how things should be on other people. People who complain about something like that have not evolved past ancient and incorrect ideas.

Because people are funny. They even use words like “everyone” to mean “some” and “always” to mean “often or sometimes”.

Silly Wabbit.

Do you live in Alabama or Iowa?

It’s none of my business. It’s a free country.

In twenty years, that will not be a problem. And, in 100 years, everyone will be the same color.

Stupidity knows no boundries?

As for your original Q, I leave that for others, but I feel compelled to offer a bit of unsolicted advice…....
“everyone” is always talking bad about her for it….If at all possible remove yourself from the company of these ‘everyones’ that you are obviously in the company of, if you are hearing what they have to say about your friend. And please, please, please make sure your soon to arrive child doesn’t hear such garbage as he/she is growing up (figured that out from your username).

People like that—and I rather doubt it’s everybody—ought to be tanned.

Up until about 1965 it was against the law in Alabama to have mixed marriages.
Just a factoid . . .
Some people still live in the 1960’s.
Just a truthoid . . .

I don’t tend to hang out with people who have a problem with biracial couples.

If you are still in Alabama, we are neighbors by state, as I’m in Memphis, Tennessee. I’ve been here almost 20 years, and for being in a city where the population is almost 50% black and 50% white, it still amazes me that the only interracial couple I’ve seen relocated from Chicago.

Segregation is legally over in the U.S., but some of the feelings still linger on. Maybe the tongue-wagging goes on because it is something new and different for them. It could be because they were raised by people who felt it was taboo and the feelings were passed on to the next generation.

When I was growing up in Virginia, the big concern was not necessarily with the couple, but for their off-spring. A child of an interracial couple might be ostracized by others was what I heard most often.

I would also like to offer up some unsolicited advice. When you come across these conversations, ask the people why it is a concern? It can be done sincerely and nicely. By doing so, you may help to debunk some outdated ideas and help open their minds.

The people i associate with don’t care .

Cause they don’t have a life and they spend all their time talking about other people’s private lives!, they could also be jelous or something

I don’t associate when them either.

I don’t think anybody makes a big deal about it.

This is really personal to me because I am the product of an interracial marriage, though not the same as the one you mentioned. Thankfully, I have faced very little racism (though people in my area are often surprised when they meet my mother.) My mother’s side of the family was against the marriage – but that was some time ago. A man I met at a bus stop, however, said some incredibly racist comments and thought he was being genuinely kind. It was perplexing.

I don’t even look at couples and think, “Oh! They’re interracial! How cute.” I just see a couple. Some are seemingly happy and some are seemingly unhappy. It’s not of my business unless I’m one half of the partnership.

They do? I thought that was over with. I don’t see it has a big deal. I say go for it. I think black men are sexy and fun. Actually I like men period ALL races . I have found the man I want though.

Mostly older people make and believe this relationship is taboo. separation was the name of the game back in the 50s and 60s. blacks and whites had separate bathrooms and separate eating establishments. no mixing of the colors. as time moves on, people are now seeing that color makes no difference. being happy with each other is he name of the game. remember though, some people will never change their own taboo beliefs.

They don’t, everybody that is. Those who do are racist bigoted morons.

I have not really run into that since the early 70’s! People around my parts do have a clue!

People don’t make a big deal of it in the UK. Those who do are in the very small minority.

It is because they are racists.

Because they’re living in the South and/or the past.

;)

I don’t know anyone who makes a big deal about it, and I haven’t in decades. In the world I live in, it was not all that uncommon even in the 1960s.

I certainly knew more black/white couples back then than I did American/Russian.

I dont see a problem with it and I;m used to it by now. I wouldnt, however, drop a friend if she expressed her disapproval of a mixed couple.
The few couples I have known to marry or date outside their race either divorced or broke up but it probably had nothing to do with color.

Has your friend started selling crack recently? just saying. Location does have something to do with it also I’m sure.

Not everyone cares. Some people do, some people don’t.

They’re jealous that they make the cutest babies lol…..

This thread doth protest too much.

A: Because their tradition does not accept it, and because they are honest about how they feel.

And perhaps because they do not subscribe or acquiesce to the religion that is Liberalism – no matter how desperately the little drum is beat, no matter how much they swell, and demand, and name-call, seething that their egalitarian/socialist agenda be swallowed whole by everyone.

Good intentions misused; kind of exactly like Christianity – evangelizing.

I’ve been in an interracial relationship, and hold no grudge against people who do, and hold many friends who are; however, I still respect people who do not believe in it (of any persuasion) as much or possibly more than those who rabidly pander self-righteous and dogmatic Liberalism – the new evangelical religion.

@ipso

I don’t feel that I need to have respect for racists. I don’t automatically respect someone’s beliefs just by the nature of being someone’s beliefs. Some beliefs are more valid than others and some beliefs are more respectable than others.

And why do they need to be vocal about it? If it’s “just their tradition”, then they should shut the fuck up about it and “respect” other people’s choices in relationships.

@DominicX wrote: “then they should shut the fuck up about it and “respect” other people’s choices in relationships.”

Indeed.

@Mom2BDec2010 It has been a day now since this question was posted, and there are 33 responses. I am wondering if you would share with us what your thoughts are now.

@Pied_Pfeffer Sure, I don’t think there is anything wrong with it. Its their business.

Thanks for the response. I should have been more specific. We already knew how you felt, or at least assumed, from your question and details. I’m curious about if you feel that people talking the relationship is more of a regional thing or just a small group and what you would do if you were privy to their discussions again.

Its probably just where I’m from.

I enjoy a variety of cultures: more interesting and great to be around, especially when within the same family unit. And its pretty common on Ontario. My cousin married a black guy, both awesome individually & even better together. (!) One of the most stable and solid families I know. Plus great fun to hang with! ;)