Aren’t you speaking of a bias such as racism or sexism or nationalism rather than elitism, @Simone_De_Beauvoir?
If my writing club gives awards for the best of its members’ work, is that elitist because it doesn’t open the competition to all comers everywhere and doesn’t give writing awards to the person who brings the best brownies? Or is it free to define the field of candidates from which it will choose its recipients?
You have two issues mixed up, I think, when you say you don’t want your young to aspire to win the Nobel Prize. I didn’t assert that the Nobel was the best of all possible prizes and the greatest thing to aspire to. What I referred to was the recognition of excellence by any means, the Nobel being only one. Others include academic awards and scholarships, spelling prizes, science fair awards, sports trophies, Oscar and Emmy and Grammy and Tony awards, Pulitzers, writing contests, chili cook-offs, juried art exhibits, dog shows, golf tournaments, the Olympics, and everything else that includes or implies seeking and identifying the best performers in a defined field, large or small, open or closed, often with some sort of material benefit in addition to the laurels.
This is how we set and uphold standards of excellence.
You can’t speak of excellence apart from standards, and you can’t motivate achievement if you don’t know what achievement means. Achievement necessarily entails comparison, one to another or one to oneself or one to an established measure.
The Nobel is one recognition-granting institution, and in my opinion it is free to grant whatever recognition it chooses and for whatever reason. There’s nothing about it that represents an obligation to egalitarianism.