Were your children planned or not planned?

Even when you plan ‘em they are really unplanned!

The first one I asked if she was sure it was mine!

this did not go over well, as you might imagine!

My son was planned to the extent of we agreed I’d stop taking birth control and we would just see what happened. We weren’t counting the days of my cycle or trying to be sure we had sex when I was ovulating or anything like that. So when it did happen, it was a little bit of a surprise, but not a complete surprise. I was really excited and happy about it.

My husband and I are planning to start trying for a baby when he gets home from Iraq. We’ll have a shot at it in a few weeks during his R&R and then not again until he comes home for good several months later.

The first and third were not planned. They were happy surprises. :) The second was planned, but happened much faster than we thought. Two months of no BC, and I was knocked up again. I swear, my husband can impregnate me just by sneezing.

The unplanned babies were a bit of a shock at first, considering I was on the pill both times. What are you gonna do though? I wouldn’t trade them for anything, and they were just as wanted and loved as the one we planned for. I don’t use birth control pills any more. Don’t trust ‘em!

I planned not having any.

I was on the pill for this one. But I got really sick and couldn’t hold down anything for a few days. We think the pill was one of the things I must have not held down.

Still, while a surprise, its been a good one so far.

My first was planned and my second wasn’t. We plan on more kids but not this year.

More or less planned. Mostly less.

I was on the pill, but my body doesn’t like modern medicine, and I was utterly miserable. My last pill was the beginning of October, and I just didn’t refill the prescription. I was pregnant by Thanksgiving.

(I don’t have children, but feel like sharing my parent’s experience.)

My parents were ready to have children, but had trouble with conception. After a couple miscarriages they were convinced they wouldn’t be able to have children at all. They finally had a success with my older brother. My mum had to have an emergency c-section though. That was not planned.

Four years later, I was planned down to my birthday. Due to the complications of her first delivery, I was planned to be delivered cesarean.

The next year, my younger brother was a complete surprise. Measures were taken to prevent further children because, even though my mother wanted another child, the doctors advised against her getting pregnant again due to various complications.

It’s all quite interesting to me.

My first was a surprise, born 81/2 months after not using a condom on my wedding night. the next two were planned so as to have them all close in age. It worked out great.

Very few children have been more planned than my daughter. Finding a group that would deal with me because I wanted donor sperm to be a single mother took years. Then I was infertile and had to go through that dance (again, with some doctors refusing to see me because I’m single). Then more and more sophisticated protocols and treatments, nasty drugs and painful shots, surgery and a large dose of Goddess’ grace and voila! Katawagrey!
Planned. Definitely, planned.

@JilltheTooth And what a wonderful daughter you have! I really enjoy both of you here on Fluther. :)

@MissAusten : Thanks! :-)

All mine were very much planned. I wanted a baby soon after getting married because I was told I might not be able to carry a child and if I couldn’t we planned to adopt. I was married in January and pregnant 2 months later. Best pregnancy with no complications at all. 2 years later I miscarried before I realized I was pregnant. Then got pregnant again 4 months later. Due to almost losing him, I thanked God for the boys and never had more. My mother in law called me ‘fertile mrytle’~

not planned

Not planned, but still much loved.

@JilltheTooth That’s real cool.
@muppetish I love your stories . I am glad you joined in.

Son wasn’t planned at all. Daughter was planned right down to the minute. I told my ex that I wanted to have a daughter and that it was going to happen with or without him. I was pregnant 2 weeks later with my daughter.

My first son was not planned, but since I wasn’t using any birth control, he wasn’t exactly unexpected. Yes, we were thrilled about having a baby.

My second and last son (16 years later) was planned in advance, and welcomed as well.

I now enjoy the company of 6 grandchildren, but I don’t know if they were planned or not.