What do you do when it all gets too much?

I think you’ve made a good start with what you wrote. You got it out there into the world and now you can step back and look at it. Here’s my 2 pence – Take what you just wrote and look at each issue. Make some notes to yourself about what you can do about each thing. For example, the money issue. Can you do anything else about it? Can you pick up some work on the side like babysitting or dog walking for the couple of weeks before you go? It might make you feel less anxious about giving your mum some money if you have some to give! When my head gets full of worries, especially when I’m trying to sleep, I ask myself “What can I do about it right now?” If the answer is “nothing,” I tell myself sometimes over and over that for right now, I can let it go.

Another thought is spending some time either meditating or do yoga. Something to physically and mentally center yourself and bring you some calm.

@tedibear has a good point. Releasing your emotions in writing is a good way to get it all out. So is talking to someone close, like a friend or a parent or a counselor/therapist.
I found that the therapist (unbiased, of course) was extremely helpful.

Oh, and remember… “This too shall pass.”

I remember that I only have to do one thing at a time, and I concentrate very hard on just that.

I start with a good cry! Then I handle one thing at a time and leave the ones that are beyond me to God. I used to drive myself crazy trying to change things that were beyond my control. Not anymore. Our lives go through changes constantly, your friend, boyfriend etc. will understand that you have other things that take presidents right now and will be there when you need them. But you MUST take care of yourself. Take time to relax and laugh as much as possible. Good luck to you.

I take walks and seek time out in nature, which calms me down and puts things in perspective.

Stop all destructive behaviours (smoking, drinking, watching depressing movies etc.) and engage in constructive behaviours (exercise, creative things like writing or painting, reading and socializing).

What helps me is to go for a long run (jog). It is like meditation to think things over, I blow off some steam and finish feeling relaxed.

Thanks to everyone for your advice, I’ll carry all of this with me to university so hopefully nothing will ever get too big for me to handle. :)

You have such exciting times ahead of you, I’m sorry you’re having such a hard couple of weeks of it.

The thing I keep in mind in situations like this (and there have been plenty) is that no matter what, time always advances. These two weeks will pass, and you will find yourself at university, and the worries of now will be behind you.

Keep communication up with your friends, boyfriend and family. Maybe apologise for not being yourself, and explain your worries and that this is affecting how you’re coping with everything at the moment, but that you still love them all. And know that they all still love you too.

I’ve been working full time since my teen years so work has always been there for me to turn to for structure, support and distraction while putting some cash in my pocket.

What you might do is talk to your friends and let them know you’re having a rough time of transitioning so they know tension isn’t because of them, try to preserve your friendships. Family probably understand what’s going on and are toughing it out with you, hoping you’ll pull together.

Well I have to say that the first thing that helped me when I was recently very depressed and worried, was come back to Fluther not too long ago. It’s a place just for me to express my opinions and feel heard without judgement. It keeps me focused. Focused on the things I need to cultivate in my life and makes me appreciate that I am not the only one with problems and stresses. Remember you are your number one priority and you need to do things that will keep your healthy in order to deal with the problems. My number one priority is to eat well and exercise and listen to my emotions. I ask myself what I really want and begin to take tiny steps towards that. If other people are involved and you have a responsibility to them; talk to them, ask them for some time and tell them how you are going to remedy situations. Humility and honesty goes a long way in my experience. All the best xxx

I relax and ponder… and focus on my passions… stress isn’t so bad If its worth it to you

For the intense moments of panic and worry I have found it incredibly useful to “attend my breath”. It’s a Buddhist thing. A Yoga thing. A martial art and meditation thing. It also works .

Hey @lsdh182, I hope you’re feeling better now and are excited to go to uni. When things get too much I relax and take a bath.

I had one of these spa treatments recently and that helped more than anything ever.

Hi @ninahenry this thread will be pleased to know I took A LOT of advice from here, and I am feeling a tonne better about going to University, I make the big move on saturday, money is sorted out, friends family are sorted out and my next few days I am spending saying goodbyes and spending time with my loved ones, I’m pretty happy :)

That spa treatment looks heavenly! All of my senses stimulated at once… mmm I wish my bank balance was slightly bigger :)

Oh, to relieve some sort of stress one day I headed into my town and got a new piercing, It made me feel miles better :)

@lsdh182 I’m really pleased for you. Good luck at uni and stay motivated :)