Can a guy be in a relationship and not have sex?

I don’t think it is possible. I think all men would sleep with another girl, cheat in other words, in a situation where his girlfriend wanted to wait years until married.

Yes its possible. I’ve heard off some guys doing that before, true love waits.

I think it’s possible. It just depends on the guy. If the guy is really into the girl, I think he could wait. My situation is a bit different right now, but my husband and I have gone 8 months without sex because we aren’t physically together. Neither of us would cheat just to have sex. If a guy isn’t willing to wait, he isn’t the right guy to be with.

yes

I am exactly like your girlfriend, except I don’t want to be with someone that has had sex already. :/

I hope to find a nice guy that would respect my wishes and wait with me. If he can’t, then he is not for me at all. Sadly, I doubt I will find a person like that because of the sex crazed society we live in. It’s sad, but it’s the truth. I plan to keep hope though. :/
Men can be disgusting, just like women. I don’t think a guy could wait if all he wanted was sex. If he loved her and wanted the best for her, then he would wait and sex would be the last thing on his mind. He would be too busy thinking of the time shared together, rather than when he was going to get off. :(

A virgin guy now-a-days is like a myth. Sort of like the pegasus.

I know one man who dated his high school sweetheart through his entire college undergraduate education. They married this summer. They were celibate until marriage.

It depends on the relationship. Depends on the people.

@ducky_dnl There are some guys out there that are saving it til marriage. I have a good friend that is 23 and still a virgin. He just got engaged and his fiance is also a virgin. They are waiting until they get married.

@Seaofclouds I really am glad to hear that. I hope I can find one just like your friend. (:

I am but i dont think there are many guys as kind or patient as me out there.

I don’t think so, not until he is totally commited. If he had never had sex, I think it would be much easier. “Can’t miss what you never had.”

yeah umm 2–3 years is a long time. Hell 2–3 weeks feels like an eternity.

Not only is it physically impossible for a man to be in a relationship and not have sex, it is also illegal. According to the Patriot’s act, all heterosexual couples must prove they are heterosexual by engaging in sexual intercourse, or they will be put into homosexual prison. I bet you don’t believe homosexual prison exists, but I can assure you it does, having spent a year there one month.

Come on. People do what they want. Who cares about other people and their habits? Ok, I know, Pat Robertson and his ilk, but really, who in their right mind cares what anyone else does or does not do in the privacy of their own homes? If you want a virgin, find a virgin. They’re out there. You may have to rob the cradle to find one, but they’re there.

Actually knew someone who married a guy four years younger than she was (when she was 22) because she needed a virgin.

And then there are the guys who don’t like sex. Yes, they do exist. For them, remaining celibate is no problem. Find one of them if lack of sex is so important to you. But I can’t imagine why this would be such an important criteria for having a relationship with someone. I would think the person would be important, not the places their dick has or has not been.

Sure, it’s called a Platonic Relationship.

I was for three years. I was a virgin until I was 20.

Q: Can a guy be in a relationship and not have sex?
A: Yes, it’s called marriage.

Edited: He’s talking about virgins and stuff.

Yup going on 7 years now with no sex. Of course there are mitigating circumstances too. I am indeed straight. We are married, And the Good Lord saw fit to take the lead from my pencil.

Now that I am older and can look back on life I realize how much of a waste it would have been to have held off and not had sex in my early years. My peak performance years would have passed without ever being used.
It’s a bit like never driving a Corvette faster than 40 mph or pushing the throttle wide open. You have to clean out the injectors and flow passages or in later years the engine will gunk up.
I’m glad I can look back and remember “When I was 18…”
What a gift!

@worriedguy, that’s easier when you don’t have years of religious indoctrination and guilt hammered into your head that is nearly impossible to erase :-/

@worriedguy

True for most men, the young years. Truer for most women their 30’s & 40’s are peak.
I had the best sex of my life in my later 30’s to mid-40’s. Well worth waiting for, I mean, for the peak. lolol

@Fiddle_Playing_Creole_Bastard

You can defrag from your religious abuses, it might take you 20 years, but it can happen. I have known plenty of reformed Catholics, etc. lol

No one had a more diverse religious program than I did, nearly drowned me during a baptism. haha

@Fiddle_Playing_Creole_Bastard Or have the fear of driving faster than the speed limit.

If 55–60% of all marriages end in divorce, it seems a colossal waste to “save” something for that one special person. If that issue is so important to one partner then that person is not the one for me.

@Coloma I made hay when the sun was shining -as often as possible and do not regret it a bit. And l did it when my parts worked at maximum performance.
I also used birth control and protection to make sure my plumbing continued to work to specifications for many years to come.

I’m with @worriedguy – but I prefer a Maserati. And at 14 – if you can find any takers. And don’t take the pedal from the metal, ever. If you don’t use it, you lose it.

@zen_ I was almost 18, and did it with someone I cared about.
If you don’t want a sticky throttle you have to floor now and then.

^ We’re still talking about cars, right?

Yes. I plan to do that.

@worriedguy :Maybe the 55–60% of divorce occurred because they didn’t save it til after marriage?

On another note, I do agree that we use it while we have it. I have been celibate since widowed at 21 and as I get older I realize we can’t take stamina and flexibility for granted and thus have to start eating better and exercising if I’m going to get back in the game in a few years’ time!

Even though I have been celibate almost all my life (a short-lived marriage) I don’t see how sex can be taken as a component separate from intimacy and relationship. Its possibility is something you should already consider before entering a r’ship. I understand culture and religion indoctrinates us with certain taboos about sex. IMHO, marriage, like everything else is an illusion – it’s a piece of paper and a ceremony.

I wouldn’t want to be with a guy who didn’t want to have sex with me UNLESS I married him. That’s like blackmail – asking for my total freedom before committing body, mind and soul to me. Yes, I’ve had 2 guys who didn’t want to have all-out sex before marriage, that’s why I didn’t marry them.

@zen_ Of course. Sticky parts, plugged injectors, peak performance, rods, rings, what else could it be?

I’ve had plenty of tigers in my tank.

Vrooom, vroooooom…. hahahahaha

@shalom I am sorry for your loss.
I read some place that the 55–60% divorce rate was virtually identical for “religious” and “non-religious” marriages. I don’t know about the virgin or experienced issue. My guess is that it is probably the same.

@Coloma And I had some tiger tail.

Yes there are, I know several guys out there who are, or at least were like that during high school. But I wasn’t one of them.

Yes. I’ve known two guys to do this. Funny enough it turned out that neither one was actually interested in sex in the first place. Or maybe they really weren’t into the people they were with. Loved them as friends, but just not in a sexual way.
Needless to say one broke up before marriage, and the other broke up after marriage.
So yes it is possible, but you have to wonder what is the real reason behind waiting.

I know a lot of really awesome, super attractive men who for religious and cultural reasons are waiting until marriage. However, they don’t tend to date people for 2–3 years before they get married. When they start playing, they play for keeps.

It depends on his views about sex. If the guy sees it as something he is owed, and not something that is shared, the situation will be more difficult. If both people in the relationship agree on what sex means to them, if they view it in the same way and are honest about those views, then it shouldn’t matter if one is a virgin and the other is not.

My buddy was with this girl for 4 years, respected that she wanted to save herself for marriage, bought her a beautiful diamond ring…then a week before they were to be married she dumped him for another guy. If anyone would care to explain the moral of my story, please do..I simply can’t understand women.

@Dewey420 on the explanation on women, WKUK has an awesome skit on that, I’ll try and find it for ya.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_3mnuelIhJg here it is.

@Winters lol awesome

I’m surprised that no one has mentioned that intercourse isn’t the only way to give and receive sexual pleasure. One can remain a virgin and still have plenty of sexual contact and experience to share with a mate. My advice? Learn how to give an awesome blow job.

Yes there are men that can wait but is that fair to make him wait? Is there a reason to wait because of age or something? I would think that if you loved him you would want to share yourself with him? I just wonder what other things would be kept from him and how close you would become to him? Intimacy is a wonderful thing to share with someone you love. I have only made love to a woman I’ve been married to but why would you want to wait and put him through that? I just think love goes both ways, is the guy supposed to wait because his significant other wants to wait? I guess I just don’t understand unless there is some real good reason for waiting?

I concur with @augustlan .. learn your techniques

@Dewey420 The moral of your story is the last thing you wrote.

You could, but why would you do it?

Yes it is plausible, but do not expect to find it, especially in the US unless you are prepared to bring a lot of faith in the relationship; and by that I mean faith in the Father. Other than that, fugedabadet.