Do you think a young married couple who want to swing can survive the hidden emotions that will rise?
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Nope.
I have worked with many who thought they could do it (no pun intended) and not one of those couples is still together.
I know I couldnt. I’m the loyal type though.
I don’t think it could work because insecurities would enter the relationship
Not for me, I get headache from one woman, don’t want anymore!
i wouldn’t do it.
it will just bring future problems.
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“Hidden” emotions that “will” rise? They’re already there.
When I answered that I have worked with couples, I coach people on all sorts of things, including relationships.
The fact that you are considering swinging indicates something is amiss in this relationship.
When you got married you made a verbal committment, but apparently it was just words.
There is something else going on, and I have had many couples who want to vehemently deny this in the name of being“open” and just wanting to have fun. But, invariably, they end up divorced because the swinging was a sign of other issues that they did not address, and they brought to the surface a lot of mistrust which was already there, in the end hurting deeply.
It is not enough just to say, “Don’t do it.” If you do not find out what is really going on, what is missing, you are both heading for a cliff in your relationship. From my perspective anyway, and I have never seen a couple engage in this and stay together.
Maybe there are those who have who would argue this, but I have not seen it, and it isn’t just a matter of staying together, it is about building a fulfilling relationship.
trainerboy just summed up a lot of what I would say here. If you want a little more spice in your life, do it within your marriage Bringing other people into your bed will only lead to mistrust and resentment later on. I’ve known lots of people who thought it would be a fun thing to do, and every one of them is now divorced.
We did it one time and I thought I was going to lose my mind the whole time!!! Then on the way home I cryed so much I could not see. It don’t matter what we say there is couple that will try it, I would say don’t do it. It comes with to much baggage!!!!!
We are over it now. But it is something I will never forgive myself for doing.
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