What do I say to someone who just got some bad news?

“I’m very sorry to hear that. It must hurt.”

Nice person 1) “I’m really sorry to hear that, person. Perhaps fate has somewhere else in mind for you? Do you plan on applying anywhere else/any other plans?”

Nice person 2) “That’s a real shame, dogs really are fascinating animals. Sorry to hear about your loss, sad face, hug.”

Dickhead 1) “Haaa… Um, well that sucks. Have fun at community college, smile.”

Dickhead 2) “Aww, well, just flush him down the toilet and we’ll get you another one, sweetie.”

@janbb has it exactly right. In either of the cases you mentioned, say something simple but from the heart and show empathy. Don’t try to “fix” anything—just make yourself available to listen if he/she wants to vent a bit, but only if you feel moved to do so.

@janbb & @Austinlad basically said it already but even though things might being going great for you the world is probably a much darker place to the person in question. If you aknowledge that you’re pretty much going to do fine. People don’t so much want to discuss or remember what’s bothering them. Misery just loves company.

I agree, keep it simple yet acknowledge the lose and their pain.

Agreeing with @janbb

I would just remind the person that there are many great universities out there and just because they didn’t get accepted to the one they wanted doesn’t mean that he/she can’t have an exceptional educational experience elsewhere. I would tell them not to take it personal.. the budget cuts now a days don’t allow for universities to let everybody in.