What do you think of parents,usually single mothers who have no idea what their daughters are actually doing on the internet?

I would confiscate her webcam and give her a lecture.

Where is the evidence to support your claim that “this kind of trend occurs in the urban black communities in the home or at some house parties a lot of parents don’t know about or just don’t care.Some may say all races do this,sometimes true but that’s because they see it as popular especially of today’s hip-hop/rap culture.”?

You get this. And then you get the writers of the world making remarks about it,like this

I don’t know what I’d do but I am so grateful I don’t have this going on in my home. Gads.

@tinyfaery I’m black myself and I know.The enviroments I been to,where I used to live,the media all of that.Even if you type a certain word like “Soulja boy-donk”,not only the offical video but there’s random uploaded videos with these little girls acting like they’re in a strip club and blush when guys(usually very older) commenting nasty things.More parents,in the black communities,and honestly any race to teach their kids the difference on how to respect their selves as ladies when it comes to things like that and need to be up to date on what is actually going on the internet these days.I turned 18 this year and growing up sometimes I was teased,looked as wierd that I wasn’t brought up that way and I’m glad I wasn’t that way.No one teaches kids these days about self respect and when they see girls like Nicki Minaj ,Bad Girls and such,they think that’s how they’re supposed to represent their selves and see those people as role models.

@tinyfaery oh yeah and the recent dance called “The New Orleans Bounce” which was created in New Orleans is some evidence proof for you too.

Where are the studies to back up the observation of one person, namely you? Your opinion has no basis in fact, only anecdotal evidence.

@ladyv900, @Facade recently posted something really interesting about a Hottentot female who was famous as a side show attraction and the video had a lot to say about females and how they allow themselves to be exploited. You’re lookng at a small part of a much larger societal issue. I may have some articles that might interest you. PM me later if you’re interested.

Obviously it is harder to stay on top of your teenagers if you are a single parent (regardless of gender) if there is no one else helping you parent but it doesn’t mean your teenager will do things deemed by other people as inappropriate (after all, all you’re doing is making a subjective call about these ‘females’ in ‘urban areas’ which just echos a whole bunch of internalized racism that you’ve got going on, I’m sure) – a single parent can be just as good as two parents in setting a good path for their teens.

There are parents out there who don’t do a very good job of parenting and transfer a lot of issues going on in their lives to their children. There is no reason to single out females for doing this to their female children – last time I checked men interested in appearing macho and upholding deluded notions of masculinity expect their sons to be just as ridiculous about it, straight down to joining their pop’s gang, etc.

What promiscuous/slutty is depends on the person – if you don’t like people shaking their asses, don’t shake yours and explain to your teens (when you get there) that you, personally, find it objectionable but don’t forget to include a thorough analysis of our western culture’s sexism, focus on looks and sexuality for women and how race and economic status interplay with either – that’d be great if you can discuss that, wouldn’t it? A good book to read on the subject that I highly recommend is here I think it would be helfpul for you to read it.

@tinyfaery I’m not the only one who noticed this but the only evidence I can give you right now(it showed two times on vh1 but only have some shorts of the documentary on youtube or the vh1 website its self) It’s called Vh1 News Presents: Hip-Hop Videos-Sexploiation On Set and how it effects glamourized by younger children, another show How Women Are Portrayed in Hip Hop videos(when a rapper’s daughter was brought up in the topic), and Hip-Hop VS America when some rappers and retired ones were debating about to not blame the music and the music artists of their daughters actions of how they represent and carry theirselves.Even on the BET channel they brought up the topic I’m talking about just yesterdaySorry,they don’t show on the tv anymore since no one is really doing anything about the problem.

I’m not going to judge the parent if they’re not around because they’re at work. Who’s supposed to go and make a living so the kid is housed and fed?

I went to high school with a bunch of upper-class white and Asian kids who behaved just as shamelessly, and had good parents as well. Parents. With an “s”. So marital status or social class don’t matter. Further, you can be the most conscientious parent in the world, you can give your child all the instruction about how to carry him/herself with self-respect, but if a 16 year old has it in their minds to act a fool and tape it for YouTube, then they can’t be stopped.

You know this as well as I do. You know how many, many teenagers think they know everything, think their parents are stupid and lame and backwards and act like they can behave without consequences. Laying judgment on the parent isn’t going to fix matters any. I was raised with a kid who knew damn well how to behave and he did what he felt like, regardless and damn the torpedoes. It was only when he had to face the serious consequences of his selfish, egotistical behaviour did he straighten up. His mother could only do so much.

Sometimes the kid having a bad or super-embarrassing experience is just going to have to be the best teacher, and if something goes really wrong, then it’s too late anyway, and judging the parent won’t help in any case.

If I ever have kids and they did that, I’d give them a quick hard wack across their little butt(s). I wanna see you say you have a cute butt and shake it when it’s black, blue, and swollen.

@ducky_dnl lol funny what you said but oh so true.:-) I feel sorry for those parents that are embarrassed by that mess.

@aprilsimnel Yep, I have to totally agree with you and honestly,there are some good parents out there and the children still do stupid mess behind their parent’s backs is awful.Feel sorry of what those parents have to go through.I really didn’t meant to sound judgemental towards the parents,I just know some that approve of it which is sad.

If I caught my daughter doing that, the webcam would be taken away and her internet access would be gone for a bit (she’d only be able to get on when my husband or me was home). We would talk about what she did and why she shouldn’t be doing it. Then she would have to gain the internet and webcam back.

Lol @ducky_dnl I agree.

The reason that girls do this has less to do with parental supervision and more to do with having low self esteem. It’s not just young black women with working parents who do this sort of thing. We had a recent middle school sexting episode that was pretty much kids all kids living in a McMansion neighborhood with stay-at-home moms.

I found This – it’s a good link.

They don’t deserve to have children, and if they have only 1, they’ve had enough!