After 3 Months Has The Man Lost Interest?

I think it’s rude for any grown adult to not inform when plans made aren’t going to go off. In your shoes I’d be suspicious of something else going on because most of us would have given some sort of explanation and then made new plans once getting in touch. I’m calling “shenanigans”.

I would maybe shoot him an email or call him and ask what the deal is… i don’t like to wait around and hope i’ll hear from someone. it’s a bad start to a relationship if he’s going to be sketchy like this.

I would say that either something major has come up, and he’s preoccupied (not all guys are good about conveying that information) and doesn’t have the bandwidth for the relationship, or he’s met someone else.

Don’t wait around. He knows how to get hold of you.

(See answer below.)

Are you sure he’s not married?

He didn’t have the decency to call and cancel.I wouldn’t waste any more time on him.

@worriedguy….That was my first thought.

Or if you met him online (especially, but even if you met him otherwise) he may be juggling a few women. That is notorious for people you meet online. They pursue and then drop you without a word and go on to the next “profile”.

Basically, if he disappears like that…he’s not that into you, unfortunately. (Read the book: He’s Not That Into You).

Don’t be too disappointed. I wish I had good news. :( But I think he is a player…or at the very least, not a gentleman. Do you really want a relationship that is already off on the wrong foot? You deserve someone who cares.

He seems shady from what you’ve described. He sounds quite immature – at least on an emotional level.
All in all, he seems to be playing games of some sort. I’d walk away if I were in your shoes.

ouch
that doesn’t sound too good
all i can say is that i wouldn’t trust him
not one bit

Sounds to me like he’s looking for “a bit of the ol’e in an’ out” and not much more.

It’ll drive ya crazy and set you against every other man on the planet. We’re not all bad. So don’t let one guy burn yer britches. Give a couple of jerks a chance before writing off all men as assholes.

Sorry you were treated like that.

@RealEyesRealizeRealLies That’s what I was thinking but I didn’t want to be too cynical or disparaging of men, most of whom I like very much but… @michelem2m did this guy bolt shortly after he and you had sex or shortly after he realized that sex might be even farther down the road than he had imagined? That could explain everything. Sorry, guys, but that’s just the way you roll sometimes.

I would not stand for someone canceling on me at the last minute and not even having the decency to let me know.

I would just move on. If he wants to see you again, he will call you, but I think you are both a little too old to be playing these teenage games.

“Do you think it is best that I wait for him to call so that he has a chance to miss me or so that he will be the one to pursue me?”

No. I think you should refuse and block his calls, never to speak with him again. Award the vexatious with Golden Silence. They’ve earned it.

I must admit, I thought this was about teenagers until I got to the end and read your ages. Move on, @michelem2m, you are in for heartbreak here. Who wants to be in a relationship where you’re always ‘wondering’.