Can you ever spend too much time with an infant?

You can never spend too much time with an infant.

Only he can decide that – personally, for me, there are times when I’ve had enough of my both of my kids for the day (today is such a day and now is such a time, they went downstairs to be with grandma, thank the lord) – also, having a child may have led him to rethink some priorities in live and perhaps he realized that those friends or activities he used to enjoy are now as meaningful given his new status as a parent – this happens all the time and is a good growth, in my opinion.

I agree with both of you. I feel that I’d rather him be that way than how the majority of Black boys/men with children are and never see his little girl.

@Facade I misspelled a bunch of shit, sorry.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Me too. I just edited. No biggie ;)

It depends on the individual. Some parents are at their best when they get a break from time to time, but not everyone feels that way. Since he works 16 hours a day, he might feel the other hours of the day belong to the baby. It’s hard to find fault with a priority like that.

His choice is much better than the extreme alternative. A lot of the women I used to work with would complain that their husbands came home from work and wanted nothing but peace and quiet and refused to interact with the kids or help around the house until the weekend. A Daddy who is more involved will be a blessing in that baby’s life.

The only negative I can think of is that when the child is older he may miss any friendships that have fallen by the wayside and have a hard time reconnecting with his buddies. I hope he’s at least staying in touch in some way, because eventually the baby will grow up and be less dependent.

I think the man is simply doing what he should be. He is going about things in the right way by the sounds of it.

Edition to my OP: I forgot to mention that he’s gone through two miscarriages.

GA’s everyone

Maybe he’d just rather spend all the time he can with his child. Kids grow up so fast. I don’t find it an issue.

If he works 16 hours a day and spends all the rest of this time with the infant, when the heck does he sleep? Or does he just sleep and wake up to tend to her needs? If this is the case, there’s not a whole lot else he can do with those few hours he doesn’t work than sleep.

No.

He sounds responsible for his actions to me.

You can never spend too much time with your baby/infant but you should be aware that on free days you should be building an external family outside the two of you so that the baby learns to relate to others. That very important interaction starts with friends.
The working 16 hours is just wierd. I am guessing in my response that it is not every day. He should work something realistic over time for himself with his working hours if possible.
As far as lighten up. He obviously needs his child, give him time. If you miss him see him with his child.

I work 13 hour days. 16 hours doesn’t sound that weird to me, especially if it’s a low paying job, and he has bills to pay.