When does confidence become arrogance?

Confidence becomes arrogance when you think that you could do no wrong. Therefore, you could make a lot of mistakes without realizing it. You would also not listen to any advice or evidence that goes contrary to your plan, even if the advice or evidence was sound.

When it’s no longer instinctive & becomes contrived.

Well, certainly when you are boasting.

I think it has to do with what you are confident about and how you present your confidence. When someone presents themselves as confident and able to do something, and they are matter-of-fact and the confidence is not self conscious, then it remains confidence. However, when someone goes too far, they start to sound like they are talking themselves up; advertising; perhaps trying to sell something that isn’t there; that’s when it starts to become arrogance.

Another form of arrogance is not caring about anyone else, and not respecting anyone else. It is when a person does not acknowledge anything good about any competitor.

Confidence has to be reasonable. If you pretend to be confident about things you have no way of knowing, that’s just arrogance. When you are so sure of yourself that you’ll say anything, that’s arrogance.

There’s that saying, “If it’s too good to be true, it probably is.” Well, there is a human analog. If it sounds like too much confidence, then it probably is.

When the person says. I do that waaay better then you and you suck.

It becomes arrogance when you, the individual, see it as such.
Arrogance being subjective.

Usually arrogant people are not confident. Their arrogance is used to cover up their insecurity. Confident people are usually never arrogant.

OJ Simpson comes to mind when you talk of arrogance.
Arrogance, to me, is an air about you that you think you are better, above others for no real reason.
Confidence is knowing you are good or great at something because you are.

@chyna I’m always amused with people who have to use long words (superfragilisticexpialidocious…loll) to express themselves. To me, that is a form of arrogance and insecurity.

Confidence—I know I can do this.
Arrogance—no one is equal to my abilities
Confidence—I look hot in this outfit
Arrogance— There isn’t a man or woman alive who won’t be attracted to me in this outfit.
Confidence—I’m sure I have most of the qualities they are looking for. (job interview)
Arrogance—I should interview them and see if they are worthy of me.

“I should interview them and see if they are worthy of me.”

Come on… It is always good to determine worthiness. ;-)

@ChazMaz Only if you don’t want the job.

Actually. It is a two way street.

When interviewing, I am interviewing them also. I have on occasion, declined the opportunity to work for a business. After interviewing and coming to the conclusion that they are not worth it. Or “worthy” of me. ;-)

I would not see that as arrogance but common sense. And, if anything, I did them a favor. I was looking out for them even before I was an employee. What a guy!

I agree but in my example I am talking about the person who goes into an interview thinking he doesn’t really have to explain anything about themselves. And decides this is a time and place to find out everything you have to offer with the job. Instead of doing their homework before applying.

Got ya. Arrogance! ;-)

Or just stupid. lol

I think arrogance and stupidity often go hand in hand.
:D

When it’s coupled with a closed mind and something resembling rudeness towards other’s ideas?

@SuperMouse You have it somewhat backwards. You actually need enough positive self-esteem with yourself before you can be confident with anything. A truely confident person should actually never be aware they are “confident” because they are already content with themselves as it is. The “confidence” that is portrayed by the media, tv, movies, magazines and many dating/self-help experts is the “fake it until you make it” variety and is utter arrogance itself.

Confidence is not an emotion. You can have a type A person that is very confident with dating/conversation but lacks it in completing a very difficult job that requires working alone and deep concetration. On the other hand you can have a type B person that has massive confidence in their ability to do the difficult job alone but lacks it when it comes to dating/socializing. There is a very fine line between confidence and arrogance. It is really about courage and self-esteem.

Confidence will have a touch of humour; arrogance won’t.