Is it too early for my boyfriend to give me a promise/commitment ring after 6 months of our relationship?

Yes.

Also, no offense, but you’re probably not even going to be together by the time you graduate.

I think rather than googling it, you should ask him what it means, to him because it may not be as serious as you think.

I agree with @Simone_De_Beauvoir. You need to find out what the ring means to your boyfriend and then determine whether you are in agreement with it. We cannot really assess your level of comfort in your relationship.

It’s not up to anyone else to tell you it’s too soon or not. People have gotten married after knowing each other for a few hours. This is your decision.

If it feels like it’s too soon, then it’s too soon for you. If you are excited by it, then maybe it isn’t too soon. Given your question, I suspect this feels too soon and too fast for you.

You should do what @Simone_De_Beauvoir suggests. You have to talk to your boyfriend about what this means to him. If you have trouble doing that, I think you have your answer.

I was engaged seven months into my relationship with my husband. I was 21.

We knew we were meant for one another so we didn’t see any point to prolonging anything. We’ve been together for 17 years now.

Only you can know it it is too much too soon. Discuss it with your boyfriend.

My gut is telling me that it is too soon because you’ve posted this question.

Yes.

Do you feel it is too early with this particular guy?

Also, just because he bought a ring that particular style does not necessarily mean it was a promise ring. What was his intent?

Have you asked him?

A ring is a jewelry gift unless the giver specifies a meaning behind it. Just because it has a heart doesn’t mean it’s a “promise” ring. I’d ask him if he hasn’t already said by now if there is a signifigance to his gift other than being so sweet on you.

I agree with @Simone_De_Beauvoir, but I don’t necessarily think you ought to have the ‘define the relationship’ talk with him. If it’s bugging you and you need to find out what’s behind it, go ahead but ask casually, complimenting the gesture so he doesn’t feel attacked.

e.g. “I really love this ring you gave me, where did you get it?/what kind of ring is it?” – just keep asking questions about the ring until he answers that it’s a promise ring/that he got it from a promise ring shop or whatever, and if he doesn’t mention that it is, then it probably isn’t.

‘Define the relationship’ talks can make things really awkward. Don’t try to overanalyse, just have run and enjoy your time together, however long it may be.

Only he can tell you what the meaning of the ring is. It may be just a gift. Or it could be a promise. There is only one person who knows. Try not to assume anything either way. Hard as that is.

Again, agreed with @Simone_De_Beauvoir. Unless he’s said it’s a promise ring, it is simply a gift. Ask him about it.

As far as the time-span is concerned, if you felt the need to ask if it’s too soon, some part of you must feel some sort of doubt. Especially given the way you phrased some things within your question, you don’t seem like you’re ready to have received a promise ring.

The timeline is only “okay” to each individual. I met my husband when I was 18. We started dating the night we met. After four months, we moved in together, and after six months (two months after we moved in together,) we were engaged. We’ve been together for three years now and have yet to set a date for a legally-binding-marriage ceremony. For us, the progression of our relationship was completely natural, each stage was soon enough, and each new step continues to be right. No doubts. There were no promise rings, but we did purchase some very simple steel rings, not to remind ourselves, but to indicate our level of commitment to others who place importance in the symbol. Also, they spin. :) Even our engagement wasn’t very momentous, and was not at all surprising because it was simply the act of voicing something we each already knew.

So the answer is, do you think it’s too soon?

As the others said, you should ask him before you make any assumptions about whether it’s too soon or not. I would think that if he meant for it to be a promise ring, though, he would’ve told you.