Do you find it is easier to forgive yourself trespasses, or forgive those trespasses committed against you?

It’s the same with me. Mostly because I assume none, and then my trespasses sneak up on me, and I only find out by thinking about them or being told about them later. So not only do I know I did wrong, but I feel stupid for not seeing it coming.

I’m the opposite to you :-/
I rarely do wrong against anyone & if I do it’s not intentional! :-/

I forgive others without them even having to ask.

I hardly forgive myself.

@Scooby – it’s the unintentional ones that often end up being the most problematic, unfortunately.

If forgiveness is sought, it is granted. Forgetting is the tougher part. And I beat myself up all the time around anything that might be a perceived “wrong” from the other side.

“It is my own wrongs that linger and ride my conscience.”

THAT is what makes us human.

I’m the same way. I try not to hurt others and I feel really bad if I do. I forgive others without having to be asked for forgiveness.

@iamthemob

That has been the case in the past unfortunately, fortunately though we live & learn…A lot of time has past by since my last, errmm indiscretion….. :-/ I was forgiven btw….

I am far more easy to forgive than my f’d up friends! XD

Yes, I am far harder on myself than I am on others.

@lucillelucillelucille – How about your mother in-law?

No.

I am equally forgiving of self and others.
Of course, I was born an old soul type, nobody ever really had to tell me how to behave. lol

I can honestly say that I am completely free of any and all guilt as I have never willfully harmed another, lied, cheated on, stolen, spread rumors or any of the usual crap that unconscious people do that brngs suffering to themselves and others.

I beleive that everyone is perfect for who they are and where they are in their evolution, so, I also take nothing personally, meaning that if someone wrongs me, is unkind to me, they did not single me out, they would do/behave the exact same way with another.

Takes the emotional attachment right out of the equation.

Thinking about this question and being honest.

I have come to the point in life that, I do not care about what others do. I just shut them down.
And I will not get down on myself for things I currently cant control.

I will not let guilt and/or insecurity get the best of me.

@ChazMaz -How ‘bout that??XD

I’m with @Scooby – i never (not yet anyway) have wronged someone so bad that i feel i need to forgive myself for it to get a huge burden off my shoulders. There is only one thing i did when i was younger that i’ll always regret and never forgive myself for it, but that’s the only one.
So, i find it much easier to forgive myself than forgive people who intentionally do wrong against me – i despise them for it if it’s bad enough, but i don’t feel a need to forgive them. I just, after a while, move them out of my mind and voila, i carry on with my life almost as if they never existed. And nope, i don’t carry burdens around either, they and their wrong doings are removed from my life, period.

@NaturallyMe

Ditto to that :-/

I’m an equilateral forgiver. Otherwise it’s just one more thing with the potential to eat you up & we can’t have that now can we?

I find it far easier to forgive others than to forgive myself.

I forgive quite readily and usually forget quite readily too. Forgiving myself I have great difficulty.

I have become adroit at both forgiving others and myself. I find the load considerably lighter.

So far I’m not good with either.

Forgiveness of oneself does not come by an act of the will of the individual but by the knowledge of Truth that gives the revelation of all things.

Seek it out and there is no need strive after forgiving yourself, it becomes automatic.

Also there would be little need to strive after forgiving others as that too is automatic…

nevertheless where there is no knowledge of truth it is still good to continue to do these things.