How do you be a man?

Many cultures have “rites of passage” into manhood, there is usually some pain and/or difficulty involved. What if someone has poor male role models as a kid and still acts like a kid in some ways, and dare I say it, may even act feminine and wants to be more manly. Some people blend the two quite well, where are the lines drawn, is there a third sex, an androgynous character? I don’t know if I mean how do you walk and talk, but I guess so.