Oh, my, Gailcalled! As a recovering alcoholic for 24 years, I can tell you that alcoholism is indeed an addiction—like drug addiction. The reasons for it are many—the least of which is a genetic disposition. It’s usually impossible to tell who will become an alcoholic, especially ithey never drink alcohol. The reasons WHY you start drinking are unending: to be part of the group; to relax anxiety; to make you feel less depressed (alcohol will totally defeat this purpose); to conquer a fear; to look “cool” to others, etc., etc.
I became addicted after my divorce when I was feeling “out of control,” and the new dating atmosphere of my life afforded me the opportunity to enjoy drinking socially. Every day I needed to conquer my fear and anxiety. Alcohol helped!
It wasn’t until my oldest child checked himself into drug rehab that I was able to admit to myself that I, indeed, had a problem. He called me from the hospital rehab and said, “They are telling me that I’m not only a drug addict, but also an alcoholic!! If anyone in this family is an alcoholic, Mom, it’s you!” That hit between the eyes; I started doing research. As soon as I read this book by “famous people” who were recovering alcoholics and STOPPED MY OWN DENIAL, I was on the road to recovery. (This brings to mind another possibility. If you’re not sure you are an alcoholic, ask someone who really loves you if they think you are. But don’t ask another loved one who is ALSO an alcoholic. Then you’ll have a partner in denial!) But it was never easy. It took several years to fully sink in, but, fortunately, I was able to quit cold and stay sober. And after 24 years, the “urge” will still arise, and I still have to remember how difficult quitting both drinking and smoking were, and what these “vices” had almost done to my life! I was one of the lucky ones!
In regard to the genetic tendency, my grandfather, my sister, 4 of my nieces, and 2 of my own children are all alcoholics—some recovering and some not. I agree with nikipedia that substance abuse causes harm, physically and legally, but even more so emotionally and mentally. And jenlk is absolutely right! If you find yourself questioning yourself about having a drinking problem, or denying to yourself or others that you do, then you probably DO! It’s the damn denial that gets in the way of recovery!!