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Does this sound like erectile dysfunction to you?

Asked by mvp2003 (26points) September 24th, 2010

Well this is a bit embarrassing but lately I have had a little issue where if there isn’t constant stimulation to my penis I have trouble staying erect. It’s not so much when I am alone but with another person. It’s really bothering me because it’s been happening for awhile now and it’s embarrassing. I do get aroused often throughout the day and sometimes ugh “take care of business” 2–3 times a day with no issues. However I feel like my sex drive is alot less then it used to be because I rarely get aroused just off thoughts and usually have to have stimulation. Also I think a part of it is that if I am not strongly emotionally attached to the person or I know it’s just a fling it’s much more likely to happen. I am only 24 years old, do you think this is all in my head? Any advice, tips, similar experiences? This is like a nightmare anymore because when I was younger I certainely knew how to have a good time without any issues…maybe I desensitized myself to sex?

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Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

Are you on any medication? Has there been any emotional trauma recently?

mvp2003's avatar

No medications at least none that are prescription, I often don’t sleep much and most days I am somewhat tired. I am usually very stressed out about many things in life, and my last relationship I sometimes felt forced into sex sometimes. Not actually forced but it was easier to just do it then argue about it or deal with an attitude. Not sure if any of that plays a part in it. I don’t think so because I can be very attracted to the person and be all about it and then im all ramped up and after maybe 10–15 minutes if something about the scenario changes and there isnt constant stimulation then I tend to lose it and often can’t get it back…I really don’t understand it. I will stil feel super horny for lack of a better word but I’ll usually just take care of that afterwards when I’m alone…i’m really starting to make me feel bad about myself…my self esteem and confidence is rather low as it is.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

Lack of sleep, severe stress can absolutely play a part. Perhaps, at this point, the couple of occasions when this happened (I don’t think you have erectile dysfunction, btw) have psyched you out and now it’s just psychosomatic but I’m not sexologist. If you are able to masturbate and have an erection then an orgasm, I think there is no problem other than making it happen when others are around. The low self esteem is at fault there – perhaps stop focusing on your sex life for about a half a year – let it all go, you’re not your erection and revisit this issue with someone you feel really comfortable with.

mvp2003's avatar

thats probably a very good point because since this started happening I fell like my sex life has become more of a priority to me oddly enough. I’m not sure if I have the mentality that I am getitng older and I might not be able to get it at some point lol or this issue scares me that I might not be able to actually do it ever again….I think not concerning myself with sex for ahwile would be good

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

You are 24! That is not old or even older, really. I have a prostate cancer patient (who looked 40 btw) that once asked me about his sex life with his 5th wife and he said ‘even though I’m 82, I still worry’, I almost spit out my water – see, it’s all about how you look at it…try not to worry about it so much.

Bagardbilla's avatar

Stimulate your largest sexual organ, first! The one between your ears! If you’re not into her/him it ain’t gonna happen, especially now, that you’re moving out of little boy stage into a Man who’s probably beginning to value intamicy more as a way to connect then something to take car of everytime the wind blew.
Physically, If you smoke cut back, and drink more water! This is a solution I’ve discovered for myself via direct experience. You’d be surprised how much thicker blood (as opposed to naturally hydrated viscosity) affects erections!
Good luck brother.
—as much as I love your advise @Simon… SIX MONTHS!? really? Only girls and monks (with some help from prepubecent boys) can accomplish that herculian task, not 24 yr old guys! Come on he releaves himself 2–3 times a day! ;)

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@Bagardbilla I don’t believe in that generalization. In any of the ones you mention.

mvp2003's avatar

Well I know I am suppose to be taking a break but…Ill start that soon lol…I think my problem is solved…I just can’t do random flings anymore, I hung out with a very close friend I havn’t seen in awhile and not to be overly detailed but there was NO problems attttt alllll :)

gene116's avatar

Hmm. Sounds like you’re growin up kiddo!

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palpateit's avatar

Have you masturbated to porn? Many young men are experiencing porn-induced ED.
Search- Erectile Dysfunction and Porn.
Watch the video series.

cynema's avatar

Well, for starters… Masturbating 2–3 times a day might be effecting this. Try holding out, see what happens.

Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction, sounds more like a hand to hand combat dysfunction to me.

I dont mean to be so crass, but surely plenty of us are familiar with taking care of business first, to prolong taking care of the real business later. Point is, maybe you just need to let yourself long for it?
As you get used to sex, it stops being as intensely arousing a prospect… Especially, as you get comfortable with a partner.

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GarrettHnatiuk's avatar

ED is generally diagnosed if somebody includes a chronic wherewithal to initiate or sustain an acceptable erection. However, occasional lack of ability to get hard occurs commonly for a number of reasons, including stress, anxiety, insomnia, poor nutrition, or simply utilizing a bad day. You might be experiencing an unrealistic expectation of the this means to become manly. It is a myth that the man is certainly ready for sex, can produce a hard strong erection constantly, each time, and keep it until his partner reaches orgasm.

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