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NSFW Has sexual foreplay changed over the years?

Asked by crazyguy (3207points) May 28th, 2021

When I was dating, some 50 years ago, foreplay consisted mainly of kissing and petting. Oral was not quite in yet.

Has that changed in the last 50 years?

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rebbel's avatar

Yeah, I noticed that too.
In the Netherlands it was similar; holding hands, kissing (a peck on the cheek, maybe one on the mouth), and fisting.
Nowadays it’s off the charts….

kritiper's avatar

I guess my idea of foreplay is different than yours. I was shown what to do by a woman.

TJFKAJ's avatar

I wasn’t there 50 years ago
I have good relationships without a specific definition of foreplay
But tell me what I should know. Always willing to learn.

Dutchess_III's avatar

That is awesome @kritiper. Some men go their whole lives never knowing what to do.

stanleybmanly's avatar

How would I know?

JLoon's avatar

I’m not sure about 50 years ago – But I’ve learned that sloooooowly taking off my COVID mask is totally erotic ;P

https://hosting.photobucket.com/images/i/JLoonD/20210223_003257.jpg

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KNOWITALL's avatar

Porn has probably helped in that aspect, some guys try really hard to emulate the moves.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Porn is not a new thing @KNOWITALL.

sorry's avatar

Anyone here know of men over 50 who believe the female orgasm is a myth? I sure do.

ragingloli's avatar

Yes, the days of casual rohypnol, chloroform, and the traditional wooden club are long gone.

Dutchess_III's avatar

I sure do @sorry. And some women too.
I dated a guy for a long, long time…10 years. He was utterly clueless about women’s bodies except for what they could do for him.
I once tried to explain the process and he flat did not believe me. I think it went back to his large dick. He couldn’t fathom how his giant dick wasn’t enough for me.

JLoon's avatar

@Dutchess_III – HA!! And remember, just talking about that Giant Dick counts as foreplay.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Not for me! Get that thing away from me!

JLoon's avatar

@Dutchess_III – Too late woman! Bad boys are already headed for your backyard with their Huge Tools.

Dutchess_III's avatar

They can check their huge tools at the door!

si3tech's avatar

@rebbel What is “fisting”?

ragingloli's avatar

@si3tech
Inserting your whole hand and/or forearm into various orifices.
If you are feeling adventurous, your can also use your foot.

JLoon's avatar

^^^^^^
DANGER!! HONEST ANSWERS AHEAD.

JLoon's avatar

@ragingloli – But is it really just foreplay? I always thought of it as more like a marriage proposal.

But – I live in Oregon.

stanleybmanly's avatar

And bragging about the heft of your equipment is good for giggles when all is revealed.

Patty_Melt's avatar

I’ve heard tell it used to be like, “woman, don’t give me any guff. I got them feelings again.” A Jewish man I used to work with was telling some workmates how lucky they were, because for his people it is half an hour of the man begging.

During the eighties, a lot of men started learning to take cues, have discussions, learn from reactions.

Sometime since, it got wilder, younger, creepy.
Even if I were still attractive, I would not want to you know anymore.

Nomore_lockout's avatar

I would never give my techniques away. Go get a woman on your own. All I can say is all women are different. What drives one woman wild, may leave another one cold. These days I’m too old and married to care.

Dutchess_III's avatar

“Techniques.” LOL!

Nomore_lockout's avatar

Ideas? Theories? I don’t know what term to use. I just know that if my girl wasn’t turned on, I wasn’t turned on. I was never into “slam bam thank ya ma’am”. My wife has never complained : )

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TJFKAJ's avatar

Probably
I suspect that once upon a time foreplay consisted only of talking about it.

Dutchess_III's avatar

^^^Wrong.
It’s changing as more women are asking for what they want instead of passively letting the guy do whatever feels good to him.

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