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I like a boy, I'm not sure if he likes me back and it's getting stressful?

Asked by Sophie321 (10points) November 4th, 2021

Right now, I have the BIGGEST crush on this boy, I am literally in love with him. We’re Game Pigeon buddies, meaning he’s one of the only people I can get to play Game Pigeon with me. He has the biggest, most beautiful brown eyes I’ve ever seen and his hair is absolutely gorgeous. And whenever he looks at me, it’s like time is frozen. I’d do anything for him, but I’m not sure if he’d do the same for me.

However, on Halloween, my friend, got a text message from him. A few weeks back, before he was grounded from his phone for two weeks (he was suspended from school because his friend peer pressured him into doing something). She had asked him to be my boyfriend. He said, “I’m talking to another girl right now, so no sorry.” then he sent another message saying, “but we’re friends rn.” However, we are unsure if he actually IS talking to a girl because sometimes guys just say that to make girls jealous.

But, in homeroom where we do our homework and sometimes tests and things, I ALWAYS find him staring at me and smiling. And he acts differently around me than other girls. But I’m just a teen so what do I know?

But what if it’s not? I’ve taken so many quizzes, and looked up so many things about it, and they all say that he’s crushing on me, but how can I be sure? HELP

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kritiper's avatar

I don’t think he’s playing any “I’ll say this so people will think that” games so better to bide your time. He knows your hook is baited for him so give it time.

chyna's avatar

So stop taking quizzes and stop reading articles in Glamour that asks “Is he into me” and stop asking random people. Ask HIM to do something with you. Go get a coffee or ice cream or something simple. If he goes, he’s interested.

KNOWITALL's avatar

If you feel it, it’s likely he likes you back. You should at least text him something random and start a conversation. Shoot your shot!

JLoon's avatar

Listen to @chyna.

Not trying to shade you, but this stuff is teenworld life. If you really want to settle the crush question you can’t just remote in like a gamer, you have to step up & be real.

Ask him face to face, and get the answer from the guy himself.

nikipedia's avatar

That does sound stressful!

Did you know that psychologists believe there are 2 kinds of stress—eustress and distress? Everyone knows distress. Eustress is the opposite of distress—stress that is actually kind of pleasant, like performing in a recital. Stressful, but kind of great.

Crushes can be a kind of eustress. It feels stressful, but exciting to have a crush. It might be good to write in your journal about it so you can savor the feeling and look back on it a few years from now.

Everyone else’s advice to talk to him is good advice! Do you think asking him out would make you feel eustress or distress?

TJFKAJ's avatar

Why make it difficult?
Ask him

gorillapaws's avatar

@nikipedia I really wasn’t expecting to learn anything new when I clicked on this question. Thank you!

@Sophie321 Just ask him out. If he says no then you have your answer. I know having these powerful romantic feelings can be exciting and confusing. Just be sure to keep a level head and not let it overwhelm you. Your feelings can definitely get you into trouble too. As you get older it gets easier, but the excitement is still there.

Pandora's avatar

I take it you are both teens and you are nervous about asking him out. Just ask him out on a date and tell him how you feel. I remember those days. Yes, boys can act disinterested if they arent’ sure the girl is really interested. They can also do this if they know of a friend is also interested in the same girl. So just tell him. Yes there may be a chance you are shot down and lose him as a friend but if he is always staring at you then it’s possible he does like you. Take the shot.

My first crush ended up dating my best friend. I thought for sure he liked me best but it turned out he was just more comfortable with me as a friend and she made him nervous so he avoided her. It wasn’t till later I learned his twin brother was the one who truly liked me but because I liked his brother, he never asked me out. I guess he felt he would’ve been second best. I was pissed and hurt when I was shot down and found out he liked my BF, but I was grateful that I didn’t have to keep wondering and wasting my time.
Life is short. Don’t waste your time waiting for what if’s to pan out.

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