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rhodes54's avatar

What is the word for...

Asked by rhodes54 (415points) October 16th, 2009

..when you start obsessing/fantasizing over a past relationship and but ignore the particulars of why it ended, blocking out the reality that if you were to actually pursue it again, you’d most likely end up just as unhappy?

I tried Urban Dictionary, but no luck.

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MrItty's avatar

relapse.

Saturated_Brain's avatar

I think you’re looking for a phrase. I’m not sure that such a word exists.

How does, “Looking at the past through rose-tinted glasses” sound?

markyy's avatar

Nostalgia?

1. A bittersweet longing for things, persons, or situations of the past.
2. The condition of being homesick; homesickness.

proXXi's avatar

Normal, i’d say.

CMaz's avatar

It is called, “Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious”.

Because it is how my brain feels when I try to cross that bridge.

I big coherently, incoherent scramble.

rhodes54's avatar

‘Nostalgia’ is close, but doesn’t incorporate the fact that whatever you’re reminiscing about wasn’t all that great, which was why it ended.

nisse's avatar

Nostamnesia..

gailcalled's avatar

Delusional; living in a fantasy world, wishful thinking, slow to learn,

dpworkin's avatar

It is the triumph of hope over experience.

CMaz's avatar

Weakness.

Noon's avatar

Look up the Portuguese concept of Saudade

Said to be a very Portuguese concept (Some even exaggerate this to say that it is a uniquely Portuguese sentiment, I happen to not agree)

I don’t think in your exact situation you would use Saudade for the person that you are “missing”, but I would say you could have Saudade for the times once had had with person, or the relationship.

Regardless still a very kewl word ;-)

proXXi's avatar

A kewl word indeed.

Here’s Love and Rocket’s interpretation of Saudade. (not an official video).

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rL07_7wPZK0

Lurve and thanks to @Noon , you made my day.

jfos's avatar

Selective memory?

SpatzieLover's avatar

Reverse crush

wundayatta's avatar

pathos? dysthymia? delusion? specious? delusional nostalgia?

janbb's avatar

Regression?

Cartman's avatar

Unhealthy appetite

rebbel's avatar

Dreaming.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I really really nostamnesia
I suffer from this and that’s why I have my best friend who is healthy reminding me that he used to smoke loads back when I was in that time period just to keep up with my smoking since I was so stressed out

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